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Igotthis has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Just checking in to day Day 4 is done & dusted ... hoping sleep will improve soon.Congrats to all for keeping on keeping on... Tomorrow is just one more day... 5 minutes ago
Chasingfreedom2019 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 minutes ago
SoberNicole posted a comment on What is your key to sobriety?
The key for me is my happiness. Yes I want to improve my relationships with people and make them proud of me. But the underlying fact is I want to be happy. Dri... 14 minutes ago
Smilinggirl has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Thank you all, for all the love and hugs and kind words. Feeling a bit better, in that I no longer feel the need to fill a hole with wine (I used cheese pizza i... 17 minutes ago
Margaret41 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose, I’m so so sorry. I will be thinking of you and your OH and family and hoping that however long this road is it leads you back into each other’s arms, saf... 19 minutes ago
Smilinggirl has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
Hi Aflectic no way don't feel terrible at all! Life goes on and we have to celebrate and jubilant the good times. I'm sad about my Nan, it's a weird time lots o... 22 minutes ago
AFletic has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
Smiling Girl I’m so sad for your loss. I feel terrible going on about joy when you are feeling so bereft.... I was too busy fiddling away with technology to rea... 28 minutes ago
Jessie_20 posted a comment on Healing vs. growing
Love this, Rach. It made me think of this quote I copied down recently. (Why did copying it make my font so GIGANTIC?! I DON‘T KNOW!!)”Once you realise that the... 30 minutes ago
LuluP has commented in the forum discussions Living Free
Susie I'm just going to bed and popped in so I have to say huge congratulations for 800 days!!! I have no idea how many months that is bur it's a lot!!! Hope y... 30 minutes ago
AFletic has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose4me I cannot believe how you have coped with so much bad news. My love and prayers for your OH and for you. And a huge hug:xxxx 33 minutes ago
BreathRun has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose4me, sending love and wishes for the best of all outcomes. Hoping you get information very soon about the surgery. Adding my squeeze to the many others on o... 34 minutes ago
Jessie_20 posted a comment on Day 113. Sushi, Summer and Steve-O
Your eyes are literally shining! So good to see you so happy! 😘 36 minutes ago
PreciousLife posted a comment on One year ago I quit drinking
Congratulations Justus 👍😊🙏💕everything you have said is so true! 37 minutes ago
Molly_3 posted a comment on What is your key to sobriety?
If you’re questioning your drinking, it is a problem. People who don’t have a problem with drinking have no reason to Google “do I have a drinking problem?”I am... 39 minutes ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on Letter to my higher self
Great blog, thank you. There is no going back now. Remember you will get loads of support on here. We are all here to help each other.and thanks BabyOnyx for... 44 minutes ago
Jessie_20 posted a comment on Day Seventy Four
Oh, wow, Thankyou Istas. You all are kick ass!! Your words have been a balm this evening, every single one. Much appreciated. ❤️❤️❤️ 48 minutes ago
Running girl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Beautiful Rose4me right in the midst of that ginormous group hug for you my darling❤️❤️Send your hubbie love too xx What a shitstorm! But thankfully sounds like... 49 minutes ago
henryjac1 posted a comment on What is your key to sobriety?
From one Scottish lass to another, i completely agree. Until I accepted that I simply could not drink any more, I lapsed 3 times. “Keep doing what you’re doing,... 50 minutes ago
Startingafresh posted a comment on 100 days!
Congratulations Meg, great achievement and you are such a warm and supporting presence on this site xx 52 minutes ago
Sea change has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Just a quick fly by hi on this balmy night. Am lying on the sofa, doors open to the garden, listening to a very mellow playlist and feeling strangely at one wit... 53 minutes ago
Sparkles_4 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose4me my heart is right with you during this process. I so wish we lived closer so I could at least care for your pups for you. Piling on for the group hug... 56 minutes ago
Startingafresh posted a comment on One year ago I quit drinking
Congratulations Justus, love reading your blogs and you are such a support on this site to everyone. I'm so happy that everything is falling into place for you... 58 minutes ago
SoberNicole posted a comment on Healing vs. growing
That’s got me thinking tonight! I really like your blogs always a bit of food for thought! Xx 1 hour ago
Niamh94 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
AFsprings has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Smilinggirl, I’m so sorry to read your sad news and add my condolences to all the love and support already expressed. We are all here for you my love. x 1 hour ago
Wine-freeClaire has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
PS Afletic could have sworn that was my OH mowing your grass. Glad to see he's doing something useful. 😂 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Birthday wobbles
Skip anything that is going to be too triggering. It's early days and you have to guard your sobriety like it's your treasure because it is. Your friends will... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Healing vs. growing
Ooh food for thought there!! Thanks 1 hour ago
Jan_194 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I will join in a big hug for Rose. Xxx 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on First dinner/"drinks" with a friend
Agree it's good to warn people. Also gives them time to get used to the idea because some people are sensitive about their own drinking, so their immediate reac... 1 hour ago
Kim has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
Smilinggirl, sending hugs and condolences on the loss of your Nan, I’m so sorry. 💜 1 hour ago
Wine-freeClaire has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
Smiling girl sending lots of love across the Irish Sea for you and your family. Look after each other. Some wonderful words of advice and empathy here from all... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Day 113. Sushi, Summer and Steve-O
You look beautiful and happy!! It's amazing when you realize that you had an entire meal and didn't think about booze once. Congrats!! 1 hour ago
Jodijo has commented in the forum discussions Solos'itas
Hi loves,Back from my meeting...head went again as not a word from W and ignored all my messages and phone call. Makes me feel poorly... Stormy, It’s not easy n... 1 hour ago
tryingtojustbe has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Geez, Rose...that is one huge mountain to pop up and smack you and OH in the face. I’ve PM’ed you. Hope you get lots of practical help and some loving emotional... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Day Seventy Four
I think just being able to write this and see it so clearly probably means you're dealing with it better than you think. It will take a while for the others to... 1 hour ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Calypte, my AF 170 blog yesterday wasn't all about moonlight and roses, so I'm With you Sista 🤝. I decided to both Express and Accept the Truth about my feeling... 1 hour ago
RachelBB has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
SG so sorry my love - I agree that you need at least a day to process. If you go to work I don’t think your mind will be very focused. Big hug xxxxLubbie good l... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on What is your key to sobriety?
My absolute key is to never question the decision. When I think of that phrase, it brings me right back to the desperation I felt when I decided to quit, and I... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on First dinner/"drinks" with a friend
Maybe just tell her you only drink on weekends now? Doesn't sound too drastic and it's probably how normal people drink. Most of the time I just order water o... 1 hour ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on Day 113. Sushi, Summer and Steve-O
Sounds like a very productive day. Thanks for the link, I'm watching it now. 1 hour ago
ratherbeswimming has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
AFLETIC, HAPPY FIRST YEAR!!! Yes, the first year feels so amazing to have done... I told myself “I never want to have to do that again....”. CONGRATS and KOKO... 1 hour ago
Mkiernan has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Jazzabelle has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose4me SENDING YOU Huge hugs from FranceYOU ARE STRONG and we are here for you xxxx 1 hour ago
ratherbeswimming has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
Hello beautiful peeps... I had drafted my post just a couple hours ago and just came back to “paste“ it here, and am gutted to hear about SG.. SMILINGGIRL, I a... 1 hour ago
UnBlocked posted a comment on Birthday wobbles
You should put yourself first. You don’t HAVE to meet your friends. If they’re your friends they won’t be offended at all. arrange to go and stay with your pare... 1 hour ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose 🤯💔That's an Incredible state of affairs for you, OH & family. MASSIVE HUGS AND HEALING ENERGY ON THE WAY🙏🙏🙏... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Day Seventy Four
The Rolling Stones blasting is my cure for a lot of ills. I am really sorry about your family. I find that no one can trigger me quite like my siblings. I ca... 1 hour ago
Scottish lass posted a comment on What is your key to sobriety?
Acceptance - Accepting that trying to moderate my alcohol consumption was a never ending, hellish, worrying, exhausting nightmare, that was never going to chang... 1 hour ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good gracious Rose..all I have for you is love and support...and a huuuuge hug! I know you’ll keep running like mad and somehow keeping it all together, in the... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Shes back
Hope your Day 2 went great and you're getting some time to relax!! 1 hour ago
Pipp has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi to all Soberlucious team mates. Well done everyone - keep up the great work. Love and strength to all. Pipp xx 1 hour ago
enough has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose4me, sending you hugs and love. I can only, and will, keep you and your OH and family in my thoughts and prayers. 1 hour ago
Igotthis has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Just checking in to day Day 4 is done & dusted ... hoping sleep will improve soon.Congrats to all for keeping on keeping on... Tomorrow is just one more day... 5 minutes ago
Chasingfreedom2019 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 minutes ago
SoberNicole posted a comment on What is your key to sobriety?
The key for me is my happiness. Yes I want to improve my relationships with people and make them proud of me. But the underlying fact is I want to be happy. Dri... 14 minutes ago
Smilinggirl has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Thank you all, for all the love and hugs and kind words. Feeling a bit better, in that I no longer feel the need to fill a hole with wine (I used cheese pizza i... 17 minutes ago
Margaret41 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose, I’m so so sorry. I will be thinking of you and your OH and family and hoping that however long this road is it leads you back into each other’s arms, saf... 19 minutes ago
Smilinggirl has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
Hi Aflectic no way don't feel terrible at all! Life goes on and we have to celebrate and jubilant the good times. I'm sad about my Nan, it's a weird time lots o... 22 minutes ago
AFletic has commented in the forum discussions Jubilant in July
Smiling Girl I’m so sad for your loss. I feel terrible going on about joy when you are feeling so bereft.... I was too busy fiddling away with technology to rea... 28 minutes ago
Jessie_20 posted a comment on Healing vs. growing
Love this, Rach. It made me think of this quote I copied down recently. (Why did copying it make my font so GIGANTIC?! I DON‘T KNOW!!)”Once you realise that the... 30 minutes ago
LuluP has commented in the forum discussions Living Free
Susie I'm just going to bed and popped in so I have to say huge congratulations for 800 days!!! I have no idea how many months that is bur it's a lot!!! Hope y... 30 minutes ago
AFletic has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose4me I cannot believe how you have coped with so much bad news. My love and prayers for your OH and for you. And a huge hug:xxxx 33 minutes ago



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Soothing Bedtimes… By Lucy Rocca


One of the best things for me about not drinking alcohol is going to bed without a foggy head; being able to read a book with clarity (and remembering what I’ve read afterwards!), drifting into a restful slumber, and, of course, the feeling of waking...

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One of the best things for me about not drinking alcohol is going to bed without a foggy head; being...

Online Dating and Binge-Drinking – A Seriously Bad Combination By Lucy Rocca


Once upon a time, I was a very avid drinker. I loved white wine – well, any wine really. And in the middle of my acrimonious divorce back in 2003/4, I hit the stuff with a vengeance.  After a few months of bobbing along and just about keepi...

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Once upon a time, I was a very avid drinker. I loved white wine – well, any wine really. And in the...

What Do Non-Drinkers Drink Instead? By Laura Willoughby


One of the most common questions we hear in Club Soda is what can I drink instead of alcohol?  What can you have that helps you transition from daytime to evening, or when you are out in the pub or restaurant and want to feel part of the cr...

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One of the most common questions we hear in Club Soda is what can I drink instead of alcohol? &...

BBQ SEASON - A Short Story By Jacqui Gregory


First barbecue of the season, another first in my new life. A family event, with extras drafted in to oil the wheels of sociability. Usual scene: cloudless sky, warmth of the June sun, suburban garden on a modern estate. Heady mix of barbecue lightin...

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First barbecue of the season, another first in my new life. A family event, with extras drafted in t...

Lucy Rocca's Story

Making a difference

After two decades of drinking more than I ever set out to, I kicked the booze once and for all in April 2011. In 2012 I set up soberistas.com and now work full time as editor of the site and am a passionate advocate of alcohol-free living. If you would like to get in touch please email me on lucy@soberistas.com - I’d love to hear from you!

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"The site feels like a completely safe place to discuss anything related to my life before and after I stopped drinking almost one year ago."

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"It's an absolute life saver. I have an enormous debt of gratitude to Lucy, as Soberistas has been the resource which has finally made me stop drinking - completely."

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Soberistas is a safe, online space where you can meet people who are working towards a happier, healthier and alcohol-free life. Our logo stems from the Bird of Paradise flower which has the following meaning; freedom, magnificence, good perspective and that something strange and wonderful is about to occur.

Going booze-free isn’t about missing alcohol forever! It’s about loving life in control and being the best version of you that you can possibly be…joining the Soberistas community can really help you reach your alcohol-free goal.

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