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julie_124 posted a comment on A Relapse
Owwww. Sober Wish. Just logged on and read your blog. What's done is done. You might be having a sniffter now, I don't know , but tomorrow is a new day. If you... 17 minutes ago
LondonGirl has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 28 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on How to start fresh
I delayed going back to work (because financially I could) and have spent the last 2 years dedicated to getting - and staying - AF.  It has been the most import... 31 minutes ago
Bambi has commented in the forum discussions Comrades
Hello all ,glad I found this thread .I made the decision a week ago after many years of denying to myself that this had become a problem .My lovely husband who... 32 minutes ago
NicolaS has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 33 minutes ago
RachelBB has commented in the forum discussions Sober September
HI just finished work so here’s what I was going to say before this mornings pist disappeared! Emma - you look like a young girl rather than a mother of grown-i... 35 minutes ago
Emwaromida has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hello everyone , Big congratulations to Trace’s Aces Team today & all the amazing month makers. 🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟Big warm welcome to new & returning membe... 36 minutes ago
Escoffier posted a comment on Sober, excited,starting a degree!
This is great news to read. Congratulations!!!!! 38 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on A Relapse
I found that it wasn’t just the crappy, uncomfortable times that were a trigger, but also sometimes the highs.  I remember a lovely lunch with a friend and as I... 40 minutes ago
McL posted a comment on Sally & Sarah's Meet up - Sat 27th October - Edinburgh
Looking forware to it x 40 minutes ago
Cherry has commented in the forum discussions Sober September
Hi Peeps, a lot of mixed feelings for us all today. Steveo, I find that since Tom retired there’s less time for everything - neither of us know how we ever foun... 48 minutes ago
Sally_43 posted a comment on Sally & Sarah's Meet up - Sat 27th October - Edinburgh
Hi El, No worries if you cant find it on the meet up page, you need to scroll back quite a few pages now.. the information posted there is the same as on here t... 1 hour ago
coffee-cup has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
I'll be doing my measurements later and I'm also going to get my daughter to take some pics. It's amazing just how our bodies will change shape ;) 1 hour ago
Phoenix posted a comment on A Relapse
SoberWish you wrote something very inspiring in your previous blog...Today is an investment in tomorrow. Its’s simple. It’s impactful and to me, very helpful i... 1 hour ago
happylady posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
Thank you for this. You were such an inspiration to me when I first joined, over on the 100 thread and have given me very sound advice ever since. Congratulatio... 1 hour ago
Miss_J posted a comment on Treat Friday - September 28th!
I'm meeting a fellow Soberista to walk up a mountain with my dog! Luckily we have a good sense of humour so have a right laugh at the things we done whilst drun... 1 hour ago
Phoenix posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
Tracie, this post absolutely rocks! Spot on and totally how I feel. Congratulations on your journey and THANK YOU for writing such an honest no bullshit post.... 1 hour ago
coffee-cup has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Wander_mom I totally agree we don't want to be putting ourselves into the danger zone. Being sober is our main pathway, diet and exercise is defiantly secondary... 1 hour ago
shillgo2 has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Hi Coffee-cup found you on here will stick with this thread as useless on my fitness etc. I have been to aquasize today and food intake a little random as I hav... 1 hour ago
overthewall posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
This is so helpful, thought provoking and inspiring. I don't miss alcohol much at all these days. But today I was worrying about the next time I have to go stay... 1 hour ago
Miss_J posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
This is a fabulous blog!! Thank you so so much, have posted for reference. Congratulations on your 21 months sobriety xx 1 hour ago
FierceandFree posted a comment on Oktoberfail
You gritted it out. You stayed sAFe. Congratulations!Sometimes that's all a person can do. I send you wishes for less stressful, more joyous AF days.Happy Autum... 1 hour ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Hey guys!! Yay, I found you :)I'm not hitting the gym today as I hit it hard Sat and Sunday and have it figured I'll be hitting it Tues, Thurs, Sat and Sun. I... 1 hour ago
fbwa posted a comment on Day one
Wow it's really encouraging to receive such a response. I was looking for an email today to see if it had been posted then remembered I was looking in the wrong... 1 hour ago
coffee-cup has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Afternoon!It's a flying visit as work is so manic at the moment.I'm having my second day of planned good food. It's so nice to taste fruit and vegetables again,... 2 hours ago
Hedwig posted a comment on Here we go again!
Thanks Molly, glad to hear it goes away.i’m hoping The classes will gee me up a bit, release the toxins and makes me feel better. I have to go and smile and enc... 2 hours ago
elgar posted a comment on I wish you could be in my head - then and now
Hi IsabelleThanks for your blog.Truly an inspirational lady.El xx 2 hours ago
Suenew posted a comment on How to start fresh
Please be very careful. I lost my lovely job in 2004 through booze and too many chances. On reflection a new person arrived who did not know my worth and did th... 2 hours ago
Michey has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
Suenew posted a comment on A Relapse
Have only spotted you yesterday. Reason comment ING is I went around in circles for years until became gin soaked and nearly lost everything. Again I recommend... 2 hours ago
Emwaromida has commented in the forum discussions Sober September
Hello Everyone ,Steveo Glad to hear no Sunday blues yesterday 😊 Have a fab day , you got me wanting cheesecake now xJenza Great photo beautiful . Do you & O... 2 hours ago
josepion has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Hi all, I’m laughing again. Don’t get me wrong, there are some really serious issues teased out on these pages. Butfish menportly chaps on the adipose front po... 2 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Day One... again
Pack “this naked mind” as your reading. This wa sthe bock that really clicked it for me 2 hours ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on Sober, excited,starting a degree!
Smashing, keep us posted and all the very best, love Treen xxx 2 hours ago
Jessiemeg posted a comment on The Fall of the Leaves
Beautiful blog x 2 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Me again....
I have one called nomoit just counts days, i have it running in the background, i check in occasionally. Its nice to be able to know when i big milestone is com... 2 hours ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on She is real - 40 days checking in xxx
She is indeed, CSM, and has the most amazing eyes don't you think? Enjoy those pink clouds and tigger moments, boing boing boing, love Treen xx 2 hours ago
Jessiemeg posted a comment on A Relapse
Oh sober wish I really feel for you but be kind to yourself, don’t drink and tomorrow is a new day where you will feel more like yourself, just don’t be hard on... 2 hours ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on The Fall of the Leaves
Beautiful images for this lovely season. xx 2 hours ago
Towanda57 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on Treat Friday - September 28th!
Clarissa is beautiful TBF. I have a few orchids, some gifts and some that I've adopted from friends who lost interest after the bloom had gone. Let the roots... 2 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
Great post Tracie, you were an inspiration to me when I joined 18 months ago 2 hours ago
Molly_52 posted a comment on Here we go again!
Hi Hedwig don't feel so bad ... it's great your back on here and continuing w your journey. That's the main thing. As for the pins and needles thing in arms and... 2 hours ago
Wander_Mom posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
I haven't seen it put this way before, but of course you are absolutely right. You did a brilliant job of writing out your logic and I love that changing your p... 2 hours ago
Molly_52 posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
Thank you for sharing Tracie this is great to read. Well done on 21 months ... amazing. Xx 2 hours ago
elgar posted a comment on Sally & Sarah's Meet up - Sat 27th October - Edinburgh
Hi SallyYes I would be interested in this. Cant find you on the meet up thread tho.How many places are there ?El xx 2 hours ago
Saor posted a comment on The Fall of the Leaves
Hear Hear to that TBF, I'd love to have a book of your blogs at hand, I'd say if I just flicked it open at any random page, I'd be moved and delighted by what I... 2 hours ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on A Relapse
P.S. I agree with Coco that we often are just as vulnerable to a slip when we'e done really well, and I have to prepare myself for that, as it is much more subt... 3 hours ago
Rosyapple posted a comment on The Fall of the Leaves
That's lovely. Put a lovely image in my head. I try to make eye contact with people on street now, and will often share a smile. Just makes the world a smaller... 3 hours ago
Sheer posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
What a perceptive way of looking at it! It wasn’t ‘til I VERY reluctantly tried sobriety that I had the slightest inclination of just how good it could be. I t... 3 hours ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on A Relapse
I am so sorry you're in this place today!!! In my mind, there is nothing worse than the feelings, both physical and emotional, the day after drinking, and it I... 3 hours ago
Wander_Mom posted a comment on A Relapse
Hi Soberwish, I am so sorry you're feeling deflated. I understand that it feels somehow like you failed, but I don't think that is the case at all. I was re-rea... 3 hours ago
Lubbieloo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Clams thank you💖💖. Your right that is why, but she was looking better today and is going home to collect her fur baby. Will be lovely to meet up again 💖💖along... 3 hours ago
elgar posted a comment on A Relapse
Aw sweetheartDon't you think when this has happened its too easy to say F...k it, I've started so I might as well continue but pleeeeeze don't.I know how this f... 3 hours ago
Rosyapple posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
Gorgeous. The thought of 50 nights out v.315 is a great thought to put in mind. I am so glad your childten are telling you that you are a great mum. I already s... 3 hours ago
bellina62 posted a comment on Facing Facts and Letting Go of Fiction
Ah yes, so well said. I've been through every thought and emotion you describe here. I also spent well over a year trying not to quit drinking. It was a while a... 3 hours ago
Hedwig has posted the blog Here we go again!
Yep! Back to day 1It’s Monday, so let’s go for it. I have found in the last couple of days my arms don’t feel like mine, pins and needles in my hands have got w... 3 hours ago
Hedwig posted a comment on Day One... again
Just think, quality sleep on holiday, no hangovers, nice early morning swim if that’s your thing, lovely breakfasts, no painkillers, sounds like a win win situa... 3 hours ago
Marianne18 posted a comment on A Relapse
Hi SoberWish,I know, we know, the relapse experience is painful. I am not sure of advice I can give, but we've all got conned that having a drink or bottle or w... 3 hours ago
WoHeLo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Happy Monday all - some amazing posts! Just went to get some frozen blueberries for my morning shake & pic is what I found. Exploded AF Clausthaler 😆. St... 3 hours ago
julie_124 posted a comment on A Relapse
Owwww. Sober Wish. Just logged on and read your blog. What's done is done. You might be having a sniffter now, I don't know , but tomorrow is a new day. If you... 17 minutes ago
LondonGirl has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 28 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on How to start fresh
I delayed going back to work (because financially I could) and have spent the last 2 years dedicated to getting - and staying - AF.  It has been the most import... 31 minutes ago
Bambi has commented in the forum discussions Comrades
Hello all ,glad I found this thread .I made the decision a week ago after many years of denying to myself that this had become a problem .My lovely husband who... 32 minutes ago
NicolaS has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 33 minutes ago
RachelBB has commented in the forum discussions Sober September
HI just finished work so here’s what I was going to say before this mornings pist disappeared! Emma - you look like a young girl rather than a mother of grown-i... 35 minutes ago
Emwaromida has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hello everyone , Big congratulations to Trace’s Aces Team today & all the amazing month makers. 🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟Big warm welcome to new & returning membe... 36 minutes ago
Escoffier posted a comment on Sober, excited,starting a degree!
This is great news to read. Congratulations!!!!! 38 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on A Relapse
I found that it wasn’t just the crappy, uncomfortable times that were a trigger, but also sometimes the highs.  I remember a lovely lunch with a friend and as I... 40 minutes ago
McL posted a comment on Sally & Sarah's Meet up - Sat 27th October - Edinburgh
Looking forware to it x 40 minutes ago



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When You Quit Drinking, You Get Clarity By Lucy Rocca


Clearheaded. Day after day, without interruption, free from fog and confusion: this is my experience of living without alcohol. I think straight because mind-altering substances of any kind no longer hamper my thoughts. I just think. Clearly. When I...

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Clearheaded. Day after day, without interruption, free from fog and confusion: this is my experience...

Why We HAVE To Stop Drinking By Jo De Rosa


Not everyone hears the call to stop drinking.I’m sure you know many people who drink too much yet do not entertain the thought of giving up their beloved crutch.You have though.And this means that you have a purpose.A calling to find a way out of the...

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Not everyone hears the call to stop drinking.I’m sure you know many people who drink too much yet do...

How To Fall Out Of Love With Someone (Note from Lucy - You Could Also Apply This To Alcohol!) By Emma Young


Are you involved with someone you know you shouldleave, but you can’t, because you love him or her? Or are you suffering badly after a break-up because you still have strong romantic feelings for your ex? If so, then new research on how best to...

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Are you involved with someone you know you shouldleave, but you can’t, because you love him or...

The Power of Alcohol By Faster


The power alcohol had over me was astounding. I hated getting drunk but I loved it in equal measures. It was like I had a split personality. I really wanted to get and stay sober but at the same time I really wanted to keep drinking. It made no sense...

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The power alcohol had over me was astounding. I hated getting drunk but I loved it in equal measures...

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