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Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Super Congrats to POLLYANN for 100 Fabulous Days...Keep moving forward, the best is yet to come..Lots of Love, Cademan 4 minutes ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on Johann Hari in London & Dublin
Thanks C I’ll have a look - would love to see him if he’s coming north and would be amazing if I could get OH there (he’s not a reader) xx 7 minutes ago
takingmylifeback has commented in the forum discussions The Inbetweeners
Morning all, yes roll on spring! We have a cinema sign style lamp which I update with whatever’s going on for us, it was saying Happy New Year but that was anno... 11 minutes ago
Janelle posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
Cherry - 100% on mark! Yep - not easy , really bloody hard actually but so simple it is almost silly- non negotiable, door shut tight ( triple locked in my cas... 12 minutes ago
Cade posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
Cherry, Awesome Blog.. You're a true example of a winner. You got knocked down a few times and kept on getting back up..Super Proud..Moderation is just another... 15 minutes ago
steveo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Welcome back sarahbc, let it all out, we're listening. 19 minutes ago
happylady has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to PattyAnn on becoming our latest 100 Day AF Graduate. So pleased for you. Have a fabulous day and remember to treat yourself xxxAlso to the r... 21 minutes ago
Rose_83 has commented in the forum discussions The Inbetweeners
Morning all , the sun is just peeping out 😀 after this freezing w/e it’s a joy to see .Hope you are all ok and can get back to normal life after the dreadful we... 22 minutes ago
Janelle posted a comment on Thank you
Good on you - well done , the frustration felt when the cravings hit and you have to use every once of sober muscle is exhausting. So the moods can be unsettl... 24 minutes ago
Rose_83 posted a comment on Johann Hari in London & Dublin
Thanks for the link Chant x can’t make the talks but will look up his Ted talk.Hope you are ok x🌹 27 minutes ago
mjt has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 27 minutes ago
Janelle posted a comment on Why alcohol blocks your dreams
Brilliant Sally - thank you for this beautiful reminder. I did counseling, hypnotherapy , self esteem courses and so much more - but i never gave up alcohol an... 31 minutes ago
totaltea_diaries has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Hi all, Expat, I am glad you managed the anniversary of your Dads death ok, and IVF??? THIS IS HUGE NEWS!! Ajovia I drink Kombucha, it hasn't seemed to have any... 36 minutes ago
DroopyDrawers has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 43 minutes ago
Daffy has commented in the forum discussions Save the date - Manchester Saturday 6th October 2018
Me too. Xx 43 minutes ago
expatmum posted a comment on The biggest change is the hardest to describe
Such sound advice and life-affirming reasons.  Thanks Sally x 44 minutes ago
Lallybroch posted a comment on Soberly Ever After...
Sorry I am late to this, RBS.  You are amazing.  Great journey, great blog.  The bit you wrote about 'how am I going to keep on?' and the fear of the unknown. ... 45 minutes ago
sammyjd posted a comment on
I have just signed up to your site and have read the article above.  All those feelings are me at the moment.  I have a challenging home life and find that drin... 45 minutes ago
GCT posted a comment on The biggest change is the hardest to describe
Wow this post really spoke to me and was exactly what I needed to hear. I have really gone on a downward spiral with my drinking and I am trying really hard to... 47 minutes ago
Blades has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
There are some really really astonishing numbers here. Not least trying to visualise what 220 bottles of wine looks like all laid out in a line. Looking forward... 52 minutes ago
takingmylifeback has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning all, and a massive big sober high five to our DreamTeam, and especially to PattyAnn for 100 fabulous days!! 🎉🎉🎉Hope123, your post about your granddaught... 52 minutes ago
sammyjd has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 54 minutes ago
Pip78 posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
So insightful Cherry. Last night, after a difficult situation a friend said to me "well done for not drinking". I said "I don't do that anymore" and I meant it.... 57 minutes ago
Sally_43 has posted the blog Why alcohol blocks your dreams
Following on from my blog yesterday I wanted to talk about how alcohol blocked my dreams for so many years because I don’t want it to do the same to you. Around... 1 hour ago
Socks has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I have to do the accounts for the voluntary group I'm with. I hate it, hate it, hate it. I've been putting it off for weeks and have a total block about it. The... 1 hour ago
Cathy_1 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Don;t squint Molls - you will get wrinkles!!The coconut recipe that I was so very fond of isn;t a bun, but a tart - if yoGoogle Coco-nut tarts you will find it.... 1 hour ago
Bibs2402 posted a comment on The biggest change is the hardest to describe
Hi SallyBrilliant blog x thanks for posting xFreedom from the hell that is drinking is indeed amazing xx Luv Bibs x 1 hour ago
Domino_1 posted a comment on Slipped
Hello Hope. I really struggled yesterday too, and I'm not facing the problems you are, so I'm not surprised you had a wobble. It's so bloody hard isn't it?? I'm... 1 hour ago
MountainRowan posted a comment on Sundays are Tough
Having just got through my first ever sober Sunday, I completely relate to this. My approach is to try and change small things so that the evening feels differe... 1 hour ago
Kate_61 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Sarahbc the main thing is that you are back. Hold tight to the guys here, they will pull you through. There are lots of blogs on the subject of moderation an... 1 hour ago
HB Pencil posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
I love your river image Cherry, and when Mr Permission comes sneaking around I shall remember how I’ve finally crossed that river and got into the far bank into... 1 hour ago
Cherry has commented in the forum discussions Subday's Leicester Meet Up
Obviously I cannot do Headers or Titles. Why doesn't predictive text click in when you want it to?  Grrrrrrrrrrr !! 1 hour ago
Amwest has commented in the forum discussions LEICESTER = 29th Jan !!
Fantastic Nana Treen. Would be lovely to meet you!Cherry has just posted a confirmation blog under meetups. No problem deciding on the day.....Love Amwest x 1 hour ago
totaltea_diaries posted a comment on 2 party weekend
THANKS XXXXXXXX 1 hour ago
Cherry has posted in the forum discussions Correction AGAIN - Sunday's Leicester Meet-up. See below..
What am I like ????? x 1 hour ago
Debipep has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Sara08 posted a comment on Day 7 - All About Confessions
Wow that is a fantastic blog and so inspirational! You are doing so well!I can resonate with so much of what you have written there.I am now 54 days 'wine-free'... 1 hour ago
IdaGroot has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Molly_52 posted a comment on Slipped
hi Hope....I'm so sorry my dear. Yes Kitty Rose is right you need to go to your GP; it will be hard but you need to ask him/her for help. He can refer you to a... 1 hour ago
Nana Treen has commented in the forum discussions LEICESTER = 29th Jan !!
Hi everyone. It looks like I might be able to make it to this meet-up after all (family, in-laws, uncertainties). I wonder if it would be ok just to turn up -... 1 hour ago
Pip78 posted a comment on The Little Things
Thank you thank you thank you!!! It wasn't easy. I feel sad but strong. I am listening to Helen Reddy 'I am woman" on repeat because I am cheesey like that! My... 1 hour ago
0range-chalk posted a comment on Slipped
You said it hope. And alcohol will just make it all ten times worse, creating a vicious spiral that will feel impossible to extricate yourself from. But you can... 1 hour ago
Kitty Rose posted a comment on Slipped
Oh hope, sending you lots of love, you really need to be very kind to yourself at this time. Have you been to see your GP, maybe you need to. It’s so important... 1 hour ago
Cherry has posted in the forum discussions Subday's Leicester Meet Up
Thought I'd whip up a final info page for our Leicester Meet-Up – this Sunday January 28th...     . 1 - Bubble Northants 2 -       Amwest3      -        TML... 1 hour ago
Minty77 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on The Little Things
⬇️ - that’s just what I was going to say too, that’s massive not tiny! You are literally changing your brain with what you are doing, how you respond to things... 1 hour ago
Erna0106 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good Morning all,Big applause to Dream Team, PattyAnn for 100 AF and all the other impressive numbersHope 123, I loved your post, Bubble11 I have put our quote... 1 hour ago
Chanti posted a comment on Johann Hari in London & Dublin
I’m trying to get a sitter TMLB. His addiction ted talk was a game changer for me,He May have other dates nearer to you? x 1 hour ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
Brilliant blog Cherry, I’ve said before that I could see the difference in your mindset straight away when you came back, you are doing so wonderfully well and... 1 hour ago
0range-chalk posted a comment on The Little Things
BlueAngel nicked what I was going to say exactly, this is huge. Remember this Pip, how you handled it and how you felt after. Massive well done to you X 1 hour ago
Cranntock posted a comment on 2 week eve!
Well done Grumpygit. The first couple of weeks are tough - keep doing what you're doing, turning any negative into a positive. Accept a new way of living - noth... 1 hour ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on Johann Hari in London & Dublin
I’ve got his book about this - Lost Connections (a subject that massively affects me both directly and via my OH as you know), not started it yet but from flick... 1 hour ago
Amwest posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
Lovely to read this Cherry. You have come so far with your mindset and determination.For me too, acceptance was the key. Accepting that what I was longing for... 1 hour ago
expatmum has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Morning everyone.  It's a year since dad's death and I'm feeling surprisingly at peace.  It was a truly awful year in so many ways and I think I may have though... 1 hour ago
Chanti posted a comment on Social Life After Sobriety
Hey Supernova (without champagne!) I‘m the same, + an impulsive introvert. When I do feel in the mood to go out most friends are already busy. As a single paren... 1 hour ago
Vase-5 posted a comment on Sundays are Tough
I know what you mean. I couldn’t cook on any weekend day or night for the first few weeks or month I think, unless it was a very simple dish, because I used to... 1 hour ago
Mackensie30 has posted the blog Is it something else?
It's 3 days since the last binge. Last night I spent alot of time researching depression and severe PMS. I have noticed a connection in my drinking, it's not li... 1 hour ago
Domino_1 has posted the blog Thank you
Morning. Just wanted to say thanks for all the comments and the support given on my first blog (in a long time) yesterday. I got through a horrible Sunday with... 1 hour ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on The Little Things
That’s not tiny, that’s HUGE. As Catherine Grey recently said, radical self care. Well done lovely. X 1 hour ago
Sunshine_28 posted a comment on The Little Things
Total identification, not drinking gives you the albilty to put your self first with out feeling guilty 😊 1 hour ago
Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Super Congrats to POLLYANN for 100 Fabulous Days...Keep moving forward, the best is yet to come..Lots of Love, Cademan 4 minutes ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on Johann Hari in London & Dublin
Thanks C I’ll have a look - would love to see him if he’s coming north and would be amazing if I could get OH there (he’s not a reader) xx 7 minutes ago
takingmylifeback has commented in the forum discussions The Inbetweeners
Morning all, yes roll on spring! We have a cinema sign style lamp which I update with whatever’s going on for us, it was saying Happy New Year but that was anno... 11 minutes ago
Janelle posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
Cherry - 100% on mark! Yep - not easy , really bloody hard actually but so simple it is almost silly- non negotiable, door shut tight ( triple locked in my cas... 12 minutes ago
Cade posted a comment on Day 108 - and how I got here (this time)
Cherry, Awesome Blog.. You're a true example of a winner. You got knocked down a few times and kept on getting back up..Super Proud..Moderation is just another... 15 minutes ago
steveo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Welcome back sarahbc, let it all out, we're listening. 19 minutes ago
happylady has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to PattyAnn on becoming our latest 100 Day AF Graduate. So pleased for you. Have a fabulous day and remember to treat yourself xxxAlso to the r... 21 minutes ago
Rose_83 has commented in the forum discussions The Inbetweeners
Morning all , the sun is just peeping out 😀 after this freezing w/e it’s a joy to see .Hope you are all ok and can get back to normal life after the dreadful we... 22 minutes ago
Janelle posted a comment on Thank you
Good on you - well done , the frustration felt when the cravings hit and you have to use every once of sober muscle is exhausting. So the moods can be unsettl... 24 minutes ago
Rose_83 posted a comment on Johann Hari in London & Dublin
Thanks for the link Chant x can’t make the talks but will look up his Ted talk.Hope you are ok x🌹 27 minutes ago



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