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auntiemame has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 7 minutes ago
Fiona_60 posted a comment on Choices and alternate universes - A&E vs Yoga
What a fabulous blog HK! Brought a great big smile to my face, thinking about how wonderfully you're doing and able to share so clearly the difference that one... 19 minutes ago
Taxi has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 36 minutes ago
Fiona_60 posted a comment on Ditching the tunnel vision
Totally loved this Linda. I identify so much with the descriptions of the harsh testosterone-dominated workplace and how alcohol somehow "helped" me put up with... 37 minutes ago
Michelle_132 posted a comment on Want a glimpse into your future? Imagine 4 years AF
I love this! Thank you so much. I'm almost 4 months AF and this gives me so much hope and perspective. 1 hour ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Not giving in
Self compassion is what you need,not self hate. You did 15 days. You can do it again, and then 16, 17 days and with each day it will get easier. 1 hour ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Analysing the difference between a 'normal drinker' and an alcoholic
Petal i think beer is a bit different too, since it is so weak - 3-4% alcohol. Most of the taste of beer isnt the alcohol, which is why alcohol free beer tastes... 1 hour ago
marykathleen has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Anastasia...awesome find!! 1 hour ago
Mellyann posted a comment on Back to day I. can't believe how easily I let it happen.
When u said "I just let it happen" I could totally relate. I'm ever present looking for that fine, fine line because it is so easy, it seems, to cross. I love w... 1 hour ago
MyrtleTurtle posted a comment on Stressed!
You're not alone Kirsty, I think most of us have been there. I certainly have, many times before. Sending you love and strength Flower. Xx 1 hour ago
MyrtleTurtle posted a comment on 3 Months 23 Days
Aww thanks for sharing this Cazzer, they are absolutely gorgeous! Glad you had an easy day for a change my friend. Xx 1 hour ago
MyrtleTurtle posted a comment on Day 1
Good plan Retiree. Xx 1 hour ago
MyrtleTurtle posted a comment on Self sabotage
It's the only way Jodi.. Just keep trying. Sending you love and strength my friend. Xx 1 hour ago
Michelle_132 has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
I forgot to share what I got at the dollar store today. 1 hour ago
Fiona_60 posted a comment on One Day like this
He he he oh yes! Drinking that horrible ethanol daily gave me the message that my life was just too hard, that I couldn't bear, do, manage or enjoy my life with... 1 hour ago
Hiddenbottles has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
JaneBurr posted a comment on Self sabotage
Hey Jo, don't beat yourself up and don't stop trying. Figure out what you will do differently next time you feel this emotional pain. I find exercise really hel... 2 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Stressed!
You know there are points along the way when we're particularly vulnerable, and many people say they get caught just like you have--when they're feeling great!... 2 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Self sabotage
Jodijo, I'm sorry this happened. Alcohol made me feel trapped, too. Are you getting outside help? Beyond Soberistas, I mean? xxx Diane 2 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Day 1
You can do it, no question. Nana Treen just wrote about faith and hope, and a little bit of both will see you through xxx Diane 2 hours ago
Montanamagz posted a comment on Day 1 .. again ..
There will always be a trigger. Might be your son, might be a sunny day, might be just getting off work. When the triggers happen, you have to set your mind to... 2 hours ago
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Montanamagz posted a comment on Is This It? Yes, it is.
"easier to recognize what they are, whether they are achievable and how to go about it" Yes!Thanks for the lovely blog. MM 2 hours ago
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DamYankee posted a comment on Is This It? Yes, it is.
Ah this is beautiful, Treen--anyone reading this can tell it comes from a truly deep and heartfelt place. Faith and hope certainly have powered me on this journ... 2 hours ago
marykathleen has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Hi everybody!I don't know where to start so will start with 5 Guys Beth and Michelle! When it came to town my youngest was 15 and couldn't wait to get a job the... 2 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Analysing the difference between a 'normal drinker' and an alcoholic
Such an interesting question! I have worked for a long time in obesity research where the same thing is debated - is obesity a disease? Are some people just bui... 3 hours ago
Michelle_132 has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Good evening. Db - I am so sorry you are feeling so down. I can't imagine how hard it is for you. You did a great job resisting. I'm sending you lots of positiv... 3 hours ago
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Anastasia has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
DB.....Sending you love, prayers and strength! Really amazing job not buying any wine. It only temporarily takes away feelings of anxiety, depression...etc bu... 4 hours ago
Jodijo posted a comment on Stressed!
Im feeling the same,i did the same last night after five weeks AF. We can learn from a relapse. Love Jo xx 4 hours ago
GlowingJo posted a comment on Stressed!
Oh dear, I'm sorry to read that, you're my sober twin and we're doing so well.Well done for coming straight back here. Look after yourself and I agree with you,... 4 hours ago
Stefanie_4 posted a comment on Analysing the difference between a 'normal drinker' and an alcoholic
So well-put, Cycle Sal! I totally agree! 4 hours ago
Conrex has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 4 hours ago
Kirstyw has posted the blog Stressed!
Have been doing so bloomin' well! 3 weeks AF and feeling so much better in myself - sleeping well, waking up full of energy - walking 3 miles a day with dogs an... 4 hours ago
Sea change posted a comment on Forgetting
Thank you for your beautifully written and thought provoking blog. Got me thinking about issues around "normal" and "problem" alcohol use and what we tell ourse... 4 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Still going strong
Congrats on 40! That mindfulness about urges is great, i find it so helpful too. 5 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Pleasure-seeking problem?...
Hope you dont mind me getting sciency on you, and all this can be found in "this naked mind", but what you have it the nail on is that you (and all humans) are... 5 hours ago
Deep blue has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Anastasia, sounds like a mixed blessing that you didn't get to collect Roscoe. Hope the training already done easily transfers to you and your hubby. Love tha... 5 hours ago
Optimiss has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Night all.Sober holiday completed. Back to work tomorrow. Out last night, drank so much club orange I nearly got sick. No hangover this morning :)334 (ish), and... 5 hours ago
Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Welcome LizzieO to an Awesome thread..It's breakfast, lunch, and dinner for me, then later..I SCREAM for ice cream. GloJo, you were in my dream lastnight. You s... 5 hours ago
LizzieA posted a comment on 3 Months 23 Days
Glad you had an easy Sunday hon - puppies are totally smile inducing 😊. Thanks for sharing the photos. Take care x 5 hours ago
Jodijo has posted the blog Self sabotage
I drank last night, after making the decision to do so because the emotional pain was unbearable. I knew what the consequences would be and today I've been back... 5 hours ago
Tracie_2016 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good Evening all you sober beauties. I know some of you have had a pants day - tomorrow is a new day! Great to hear from you Marci. Ang and HK sounds like you d... 5 hours ago
Petal posted a comment on Analysing the difference between a 'normal drinker' and an alcoholic
Well. I've asked the question and he shrugged his shoulders and said he like the taste, especially of a nice cold beer, but he doesn't like the feeling of havi... 5 hours ago
Optimiss posted a comment on Is This It? Yes, it is.
Wonderful blog, thanks Nana x 5 hours ago
Optimiss posted a comment on Not giving in
Keep trying Clare, you can do it. Tell your husband you need sympathy and support and you WILL get there.I agree with others, you need to look for extra help. T... 5 hours ago
Twinkle_4 posted a comment on F is for Failure...
Thank you all so much for your wise words and support. Still feel grotty so going to hit the hay, tomorrows another day and I'm looking forward to waking up wi... 5 hours ago
Sciencegirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Back from chaperoning a cabin camping trip with 24 10-11yr old girl scouts. It was alcohol and electronics free, and fortunately we had lovely weather.Steveo ho... 5 hours ago
Prettypetal posted a comment on Day 1 .. again ..
Alcohol makes you emotional, depressed, edgy and anxious, not your teenage son. Okay he is acting up, being difficult, nothing new, typical teenage stuff. Bee... 5 hours ago
Demeter posted a comment on Forgetting
Aside from anything else, that's an amazing piece of writing. You've invoked for me the essence of blackout and the mental chaos of life under the influence of... 5 hours ago
takingmylifeback has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
To be fair she was doing most of the bouncing, I do a lot of sitting down bouncing as my pelvic floor is most definitely not what it once was (sorry gents for T... 5 hours ago
HB Pencil has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi all, quick check in from visiting the aged parents up in Staffordshire.All well with me. Wishing you warriors strength and true grit. It is necessary sometim... 5 hours ago
Chris_219 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Sheer, process of paying for carbon foot print is quite simple:1. Sheer asks OH to write cheque for significant sum of money2. Sheer asks personal maid to put s... 5 hours ago
pinklady_1 posted a comment on I"m comin out!
Thanks DamYankee must look for that! 5 hours ago
pinklady_1 posted a comment on Day 1
Welcome retiree onwards and upwards 5 hours ago
therese has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Yes Sheer, we live IN Moreton in Marshand I think it's pretty wonderful round here too!   Your numbered points on fire-lighting are great advice but take rather... 5 hours ago
elk117 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 hours ago
Tracie_2016 posted a comment on Day 1 .. again ..
Its totally been the same for me Damyankee. But the biggest thing has been having my dignity and pride restored (hence my tinkering with poetry today) - this ha... 5 hours ago
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Fiona_60 posted a comment on Choices and alternate universes - A&E vs Yoga
What a fabulous blog HK! Brought a great big smile to my face, thinking about how wonderfully you're doing and able to share so clearly the difference that one... 19 minutes ago
Taxi has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 36 minutes ago
Fiona_60 posted a comment on Ditching the tunnel vision
Totally loved this Linda. I identify so much with the descriptions of the harsh testosterone-dominated workplace and how alcohol somehow "helped" me put up with... 37 minutes ago
Michelle_132 posted a comment on Want a glimpse into your future? Imagine 4 years AF
I love this! Thank you so much. I'm almost 4 months AF and this gives me so much hope and perspective. 1 hour ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Not giving in
Self compassion is what you need,not self hate. You did 15 days. You can do it again, and then 16, 17 days and with each day it will get easier. 1 hour ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Analysing the difference between a 'normal drinker' and an alcoholic
Petal i think beer is a bit different too, since it is so weak - 3-4% alcohol. Most of the taste of beer isnt the alcohol, which is why alcohol free beer tastes... 1 hour ago
marykathleen has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Anastasia...awesome find!! 1 hour ago
Mellyann posted a comment on Back to day I. can't believe how easily I let it happen.
When u said "I just let it happen" I could totally relate. I'm ever present looking for that fine, fine line because it is so easy, it seems, to cross. I love w... 1 hour ago
MyrtleTurtle posted a comment on Stressed!
You're not alone Kirsty, I think most of us have been there. I certainly have, many times before. Sending you love and strength Flower. Xx 1 hour ago



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