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Wander_Mom posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Saw this and thought of you!! 16 minutes ago
GeorgiaCO has commented in the forum discussions Only wanting to date sober guys.
Hi Lucy, I could have written this post. Totally agree with you and it's been something I've struggled with. I've stopped quite a few times over the past few ye... 39 minutes ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good Morning Everyone!!I’m up and reading….Aw Wohelo, thank you for sharing such a beautiful picture. Such a sweet moment.  I hope you are able to enjoy your Ch... 45 minutes ago
GeorgiaCO posted a comment on Day 114 - Getting through December
I love your last sentence! That's perfect. We need to remember that we are enough just as we are. I can totally relate to what you say about dating. It's a huge... 48 minutes ago
glennpark has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 51 minutes ago
Phoenix posted a comment on Infinite Love on the Internet
SoberWish that s one hell of an awesome post! You are making such smart choices in navigating your sober journey and it really sounds like you are making decisi... 52 minutes ago
Bridgetobrien86 posted a comment on So jealous.
I’m Definitely feeling this way these days... just that longing to be a normal person. Hoping it’s just the holidays and the fact that it’s still early days...... 1 hour ago
LizzieO posted a comment on Skipping the AF drinks
I think it’s a hindrance. By drinking ‘pretend’ wine or beer aren’t you just reinforcing the idea that you are somehow missing out on the real stuff and need t... 1 hour ago
four posted a comment on Day 1
Hi Robinha ha - i thought you had 8 kids too..... just read below - one is a bit more manageable!sure hope you stay close - it will help you - when it seems rea... 1 hour ago
four has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick checkin- just home for 11 hours babysitting precious grandson and am so tired.Welcome Newbies & congrats to Dream Team.WoHeLo - loved your picture. F... 1 hour ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Is Christmas over yet
Big hug. Its OK to be sad. Congrats on 50 days, thats huge. I bet your kids were just adorable when they were small. I just got a facebook reminder of mine - vi... 2 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on So jealous.
Bollinger is just alcohol. It is no more special than a can of tenants special brew, than a cheap alcohop. The effect on your body and brain is exactly the same... 2 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Skipping the AF drinks
I tried the AF wines but never really liked them. I would never finish a bottle so it seemed like a waste. Like you I love sparkling water, kombucha and tea. I... 2 hours ago
Naschkatze posted a comment on Skipping the AF drinks
I did not have any AF drinks for the first few months. After that, I experimented with a few. One thing that AF drinks did help with is with my OH, who felt it... 2 hours ago
Moments77 posted a comment on Skipping the AF drinks
I'm quite simple when it comes to drinks; water mostly, occasional tea and freshly squeezed 100% fruit juices and I'm happy. Water is my fave really as it hydra... 2 hours ago
four posted a comment on Infinite Love on the Internet
You are doing great - sound really strong and clear. Good for you. I hadnt read your blog earlier today (but just did now) as I was without my computer until... 2 hours ago
four posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Your friend has some pretty big issues, I agree completely with the thoughts below. Time to move on to a new friend - one that supports and cheers you, not mat... 2 hours ago
four posted a comment on Is Christmas over yet
Hey pal,Congrats on 50 days - that is amazing. Im just a tiny bit ahead of you - its quite the journey and I too have good days and friggen awful days. Its th... 2 hours ago
marie2251 posted a comment on Sponsors & Podcasts
I like this naked mind podcast and also some of the one year no beer ones (though the latter is more about a 'challenge' and has some interesting interviews; ma... 2 hours ago
Robin13 posted a comment on What is in my tool box.
Thank you for this! I'm printing this out!!! 2 hours ago
Simcha has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 3 hours ago
Flopsybunny5 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Ah WoHeLo thanks for sharing that precious picture. Thinking of you and I hope you start to feel better soon.Phoenix that quote is great! someone I used to work... 3 hours ago
Peony posted a comment on So jealous.
I think that if there's an allotment to how much, in a lifetime, a normal drinker could/would/should drink, I exceeded it many times over. I drank my allotment... 3 hours ago
WoHeLo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi all. Have to work at home tonight. Have a bit of headache & chills, but feeling better. Read back and thought of all of you (successes and struggles),... 3 hours ago
Peony posted a comment on Skipping the AF drinks
I haven't bothered with them. I did have a faux margarita one day, and it did trigger craving. I just drink tea, coffee, water, milk, a few sugar drinks, and d... 3 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on The Value Of Soberistas, Blogging and Not Being Insane
I love this blog so much. Bookmarked. 4 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Sponsors & Podcasts
Podcasts, I love the Bubble Hour and Sobriety Rocks. We don't do sponsorships on here but the more you get on and post the more friends you will make who do ch... 4 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on 90 days!!!
Congrats on 90 days!! That is a huge accomplishment. Just KOKO if that is what you want to do. No one ever regretted not drinking :) 4 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on So jealous.
I certainly understand the grieving process but I do think it will get better in time. I bet that next Christmas will be so, so much easier. Hang in there my... 4 hours ago
marie2251 posted a comment on Skipping the AF drinks
I heard some people on a podcast talking about the same thing. I think it depends on the person. Some people may find them helpful, while for others they can... 4 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Is Christmas over yet
Calgary have you read anything about PAWS (post alcohol/addiction withdrawal syndrome)? It raises its ugly head periodically, and I think you may be experienci... 4 hours ago
Molls has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Glad you fought for this SA, and got the right care that you needed. I cant imagine how horrible trying to sleep with that contraption on. Very happy for your O... 5 hours ago
Calgary1 posted a comment on Is Christmas over yet
I. Am so grateful for your responses. I dont feel so alone or such a misery guts. Thank you. I will plan to do some good stuff Saffy, and to dust myself off whe... 5 hours ago
Phoenix1313 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Aww Lubbielou. Thanks for your comment. I now find it hard to deal with premenstrual hormones. I used to drink them away. Now I just feel alone and invisible. F... 5 hours ago
Suenew posted a comment on Is Christmas over yet
I suspect that you are still grieving a little for your past life withe alcohol not just with your children. I could be wrong as this time of year is hard for m... 5 hours ago
beckyt1979 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 hours ago
Suenew posted a comment on Infinite Love on the Internet
So pleased to read this. The past is my past. Mine too Glad you feel supported here Sleep tight 5 hours ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on Is Christmas over yet
50 days is great. But I think anything that disrupts our routine can challenge our resolve. Even the discipline of being at work and that structure helps me t... 5 hours ago
Mart100 posted a comment on Infinite Love on the Internet
You got this ❤️ 5 hours ago
Tortuga45 posted a comment on Awards night
Joy to read, you go sober warrior...🌹😘🌹💫 5 hours ago
Happiness has posted the blog Skipping the AF drinks
One thing I've done differently this time around is avoid buying the alcohol-free wine.In the past, I've found it nice to have a bottle of 'wine' on hand that I... 5 hours ago
playingmytune posted a comment on Infinite Love on the Internet
Just read your previous blog and this one. Well done for finding your boundaries - it was absolutely the right thing to do xxxx 5 hours ago
Diana_23 posted a comment on "You're a drunk" said my therapist
Oh my gosh .. I’m sorry you had to endure That kind of treatment by someone who is supposed to help you.. but it sounds to me you are keeping strong and not gi... 6 hours ago
Monkpug has posted the blog So jealous.
So this is my first Christmas sober for practically forever. It has been going very well so far. I have said a polite no thank you dozens of times and explained... 6 hours ago
peace has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Oh My Gosh, SA - I’m so happy for you!! Vindication!!! Truly you were right all along and that nasty machine can go right back where it came from!! Good Riddanc... 6 hours ago
Mythyme has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 6 hours ago
Pandamum posted a comment on Is Christmas over yet
Oh Calgary, you are going through some tough feelings there! I do hope it’s a case of ‘this too shall pass’ , give yourself some self care and time to let yours... 6 hours ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on Infinite Love on the Internet
Cheering you on. You got this xxx 6 hours ago
Zerostar has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 6 hours ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Ouch! She really went for the jugular, knew how to hurt you, which buttons to push. She obviously has zero respect for her father and is using his predicamen... 6 hours ago
Pandamum posted a comment on The first to go
Fully agree. There’s a limit to how long I can sit at a table for with a glass of water. I would be straight out of there too if I was bored, to hell with what... 6 hours ago
Calgary1 posted a comment on 78/100 days and failed
Grady. Sorry you had such a difficult night. Dont be hard on yourself. Well done on 78days. and for Checking in. Not easy to witness fatalities. We are all only... 6 hours ago
BlackCat100 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 6 hours ago
awesomedays has commented in the forum discussions Christmas 2018!
Thanks for creating this. How the hell I'm going to get through Christmas day AF remains a mystery to me, even after reading the wonderful posts. For the past 3... 6 hours ago
StayingAlive has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
A fairly late night post for me.  Peace so good to hear that your healthy lifestyle is producing such positive results, and that you’re signed off from further... 6 hours ago
Pandamum posted a comment on Day 114 - Getting through December
I love this- all I can do is be me, and let everyone else do them’ Spot on Ali! I also get that ‘what now’ feeling coming and going, I do worry about losing mom... 6 hours ago
Thorpie65 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 6 hours ago
Lubbieloo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Evening everyone another busy day then home and Tesco for baking things as my  daughter is baking for Mcmillan cancer, so hopefully a choc chip muffin later😁 gr... 6 hours ago
Villager58 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Really quick quack. I haven't had time to read back but thinking of you all. Very busy day, and tomorrow will be as well. Good thing I won't have a hangover... 6 hours ago
Wander_Mom posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Saw this and thought of you!! 16 minutes ago
GeorgiaCO has commented in the forum discussions Only wanting to date sober guys.
Hi Lucy, I could have written this post. Totally agree with you and it's been something I've struggled with. I've stopped quite a few times over the past few ye... 39 minutes ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good Morning Everyone!!I’m up and reading….Aw Wohelo, thank you for sharing such a beautiful picture. Such a sweet moment.  I hope you are able to enjoy your Ch... 45 minutes ago
GeorgiaCO posted a comment on Day 114 - Getting through December
I love your last sentence! That's perfect. We need to remember that we are enough just as we are. I can totally relate to what you say about dating. It's a huge... 48 minutes ago
glennpark has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 51 minutes ago
Phoenix posted a comment on Infinite Love on the Internet
SoberWish that s one hell of an awesome post! You are making such smart choices in navigating your sober journey and it really sounds like you are making decisi... 52 minutes ago
Bridgetobrien86 posted a comment on So jealous.
I’m Definitely feeling this way these days... just that longing to be a normal person. Hoping it’s just the holidays and the fact that it’s still early days...... 1 hour ago
LizzieO posted a comment on Skipping the AF drinks
I think it’s a hindrance. By drinking ‘pretend’ wine or beer aren’t you just reinforcing the idea that you are somehow missing out on the real stuff and need t... 1 hour ago
four posted a comment on Day 1
Hi Robinha ha - i thought you had 8 kids too..... just read below - one is a bit more manageable!sure hope you stay close - it will help you - when it seems rea... 1 hour ago
four has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick checkin- just home for 11 hours babysitting precious grandson and am so tired.Welcome Newbies & congrats to Dream Team.WoHeLo - loved your picture. F... 1 hour ago



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After two decades of drinking more than I ever set out to, I kicked the booze once and for all in April 2011. In 2012 I set up soberistas.com and now work full time as editor of the site and am a passionate advocate of alcohol-free living. If you would like to get in touch please email me on lucy@soberistas.com - I’d love to hear from you!

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