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Justus posted a comment on Day 15
Great job on 15 days Cherry!! That is huge and you are doing awesome. Keep up the good work and keep coming back. xx 2 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Day 21 donuts, the pub and a trip to A&E
Maybe she doesn't think merlot counts as drinking??? You're doing awesome Sarah! Keep up the good work! 8 minutes ago
Grady posted a comment on Other People
Oh, I am from "The South" and can completely imagine THAT whole neighborhood social scene just as if I'd been there with you! And afterall those racist words w... 10 minutes ago
Peony posted a comment on Other People
That’s awesome that you called her out on it. I was listening in Audible to a book I love, A Town Like Alice, written just after WW2, and the racism in it is j... 11 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Walking out my feelings...
Good luck tomorrow Bubble!! You did great today and I know you are going to be amazing at the new job. 15 minutes ago
WoHeLo posted a comment on Other People
Hi Justus, I appreciate your post and am right there with you. Regarding the racist comment, we only have to look to the Prez to see why any of these comments a... 16 minutes ago
Wellnessmabelle has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 18 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Epiphany: I don't want to be sober
That's about right for where you are Grady. You are still in the grieving process for losing your old friend, booze. It was how you dealt with every emotion.... 21 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
Do you live in my neighborhood? I have a liquor store and a frozen yogurt shop in spitting distance. I usually play the tape through to the end. I want one d... 28 minutes ago
SarahB3 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 28 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on We go again...
I think that community is so important on this journey. It is a difficult road, so worth it, but it is very easy to be led astray without the support of people... 34 minutes ago
romans12:2 posted a comment on We go again...
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. - Lao TzuGlad you are here. Tell us more of your story. I like your name how did you choose that? 1 hour ago
Grady has posted the blog Epiphany: I don't want to be sober
Another wobbly night. Very wobbly. note to self: I need to get rid of that gift wrapped bottle of prosecco upstairs for times like these. While fighting with WW... 1 hour ago
klg1205 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Madelyne posted a comment on Seeking help
Ok I could have wrote this post. Except I am closer to 10 months and it’s just OH and me at home. It’s not so bad during the work week because he doesn’t have... 1 hour ago
Running girl posted a comment on 15 Months, New Job
Oh Bubble this is utterly inspirational. I wish you the very best in this new role. You will be amazing. Thank you for your constant upbeat support on the 100 o... 2 hours ago
Justus has posted the blog Other People
Bear with me here because I am about to complain. If you are not in the mood for that sort of blog then fair warning and maybe you should skip this one. But I... 2 hours ago
Running girl posted a comment on Reflections at 90 Days
Fantastic! Full of inspiration. Reminded me why I’m here too. Always good to revisit our whys. Congratulations on your first fab 90 🎉🎉 2 hours ago
Running girl posted a comment on Sober and Reflective.
Ooh thanks for sharing pp. I’ll check out her book. Sober and reflective. I get that. I’ve becone so reflective since I gave up drink. I think it’s given some p... 2 hours ago
Peony posted a comment on Checking in.
I can understand that if you feel bored and you read your own writing, it might seem boring to you, but it isn’t boring. I hope it works out for you! You sound... 2 hours ago
Running girl posted a comment on Checking in.
Seeking serenity you are far from boring! The first while can take a bit of adjustment but it sounds to me like you are finding your voice and your passion. You... 2 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Checking in.
I think you might be experiencing a bit of PAWS, which should pass with a little time. As for the job, I am curious that she asked about your age. We have law... 2 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Seeking help
I really wish I had advice to give you but I'm not married and my OH and I don't live together. I can imagine what a hard place that must be. Have you tried t... 2 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Not Being a Bullshit Individual
I love the daily exercise too. It makes me feel so much better about everything. And I agree, so much more time! Today I worked out, met with a disgruntled h... 2 hours ago
Running girl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Night time greetings from the safety of my bed in Mallorca. The kids are beside me. The boys have popped out for a few beers. After my melt down only coffee was... 2 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on 4 bottles of wine worth
This is so great!! I am going to St. Pete (Florida) in a couple of weeks to see a friend's gallery opening, and yesterday I decided to book a kayaking trip to... 2 hours ago
Katie-Esther posted a comment on Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
Well done, you!! 2 hours ago
Patti posted a comment on Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
I punched many a pillow and screamed loudly often those first couple of months!! Great job Romans!! 2 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Not Being a Bullshit Individual
Really liked this blog, Soberwish! I can totally relate to "you are more patient with yourself and others". I am (well -mostly) so much more patient with my kid... 2 hours ago
Peony posted a comment on Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
Hi, and congrats on your 17 days, and on your resisting of a particularly artful lure. The thing is, our addiction knows us inside and out, and knows just how... 2 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Why I drank
What a brave blog! Hugs to you. Don't you hate feeling so damn low. We all go through it. I tend to go through this kind of low feeling every single month - P... 2 hours ago
Fernandosclams posted a comment on Why I drank
I’m glad you wrote this blog SunflowerField, it feels like it comes quite close to describing why many of us used alcohol as a way to cope with the disconnect b... 2 hours ago
Bubble_11 posted a comment on Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
Once I sang myself out of buying wine. If you wait it out or do something mindful you can pretty much talk yourself out of it. Well done on 17days, you are doin... 3 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Reflections at 90 Days
Love love love your blogs Justus. You are a ray of sunshine in this Soberistas community! Thank you. :) 3 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Feeling Good
Way to go on Couch to 5K! I am also trying to get to running 5K straight. I'm about 80% there. It gets better and better. I can't wait to blog that I have FINA... 3 hours ago
Solitudinous has posted the blog We go again...
My binge drinking has ranged from weekly to infrequent, but has very often been destructive. I have previously been an interested visitor to this site, reading... 3 hours ago
Beancounter298 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
After 150 days AF last week, I had a really vivid dream in which I was still drinking. Every thing that happened in the dream was so true to life that when I wo... 3 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Alone time
300 days is AWESOME! Congrats! 3 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Checking in.
I hear you re the "boring" phase, but I think it's not about being bored or being boring....I think it's about finally being mindful, finally having a quiet min... 3 hours ago
Peony posted a comment on Date Night
Sounds positively scrumptious, all the more for allowing room for real affection to possibly grow. 3 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Day 21 donuts, the pub and a trip to A&E
Your mom offering you a glass of wine is just too funny....and I can totally relate to that experience. I feel like even though I tell people I'm going AF, they... 3 hours ago
Bubble_11 has commented in the forum discussions Chilterns Walk #3
😁💕🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️ 3 hours ago
Mamaboss posted a comment on Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
Wow! What an eloquent blog!! I could totally imagine how you were feeling - are you a professional writer?! If not, you should be!!!Way to go for not giving in... 3 hours ago
floss_4 posted a comment on Book Club
I enjoyed Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine, actually didn't want to ends, wanted to find out how she went in the next chapter of her life 3 hours ago
Sugarmeadow has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Thank you so much for the warm welcome- I’m so touched. Ive been at work today and entertaining visitors this evening - making sloe gin for them to take back to... 3 hours ago
Michelle_132 has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas 2018!
Hello, friends. I was feeling blah yesterday and didn’t want to come on here and post another blah day, so I read but stayed away from posting. Today I am yay b... 3 hours ago
Mamie has commented in the forum discussions Optimistic October
Hi gang.... im knackered!! Thanks for advise.... will find out more tomorrow! Its just so sad! Glad to get home again where we can all spread out! Thats the... 3 hours ago
Manch posted a comment on Walking out my feelings...
Good to see you got to the bottom of it and are feeling better. That part of the ‘journey’ (😬) where we begin to see that the person we really are is actually q... 4 hours ago
Manch has commented in the forum discussions Optimistic October
Hi everyone - hope you all had super sober weekend. Spending weekends not pissed never loses its fabulousness 🤩 This time last year I’d have woken up feeling li... 4 hours ago
Snicky has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas 2018!
Hi,I’m loving the reality stories! So true. I’m taking it easy today as it literally hurts to breath after the Pilates class on the reformer machine I did yeste... 4 hours ago
Smilinggirl posted a comment on Walking out my feelings...
Well done Bubble!! It's so amazing how getting outside can change our mood. I've been like an actual Bitch today , on the verge of having a meltdown, for first... 4 hours ago
romans12:2 has posted the blog Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
What a glorious morning it started out to be. Isn't there something so magnificent about waking up sober, feeling good and having energy to do things? What a sm... 4 hours ago
Jane Allison has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Welcome to Spared and Cake Lady. You do realise you now have two threads to juggle! You won’t have time to eat anything!!! CL I found it a real help to start do... 4 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Checking in.
Fingers crossed for the job opportunity, it sounds perfect, and have fun with your MIL, i bet she is enjoying the sun. 4 hours ago
Kaz1 posted a comment on I want to stop
I don't know Emma B about bravery and guts if I had both I wouldn't be in this situation. I am actually annoyed with myself my older sister is an acute alcoholi... 4 hours ago
Manch has posted in the forum discussions Chilterns Walk #3
After a couple of lovely walks over the summer we are planning another on WEDNESDAY 28 NOVEMBER. We’ll head off from Princes Risborough at 9.30 am. It’ll be abo... 4 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Quick check in
I was on the sugar for a year, then faded that out, dont worry about it if it helps! I think the tiredness is the body adjusting, and catching up on much needed... 4 hours ago
SunflowerField posted a comment on Day 21 donuts, the pub and a trip to A&E
You doing great. Your mum and the merlot made me smile. Hope OH isn't too sore! Xx 5 hours ago
AlysR has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
WFC glad you saw it through - just read my caring and gentle post back through again. Oops! Hope you're feeling better. Sending love x 5 hours ago
ka1978 posted a comment on Day 21 donuts, the pub and a trip to A&E
Oh your comment about your mum has made me chuckle...… Even at 9 months my mum was listening with one ear that I've given up drinking before offering me a glass... 5 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Day 15
Great job on 15 days Cherry!! That is huge and you are doing awesome. Keep up the good work and keep coming back. xx 2 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Day 21 donuts, the pub and a trip to A&E
Maybe she doesn't think merlot counts as drinking??? You're doing awesome Sarah! Keep up the good work! 8 minutes ago
Grady posted a comment on Other People
Oh, I am from "The South" and can completely imagine THAT whole neighborhood social scene just as if I'd been there with you! And afterall those racist words w... 10 minutes ago
Peony posted a comment on Other People
That’s awesome that you called her out on it. I was listening in Audible to a book I love, A Town Like Alice, written just after WW2, and the racism in it is j... 11 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Walking out my feelings...
Good luck tomorrow Bubble!! You did great today and I know you are going to be amazing at the new job. 15 minutes ago
WoHeLo posted a comment on Other People
Hi Justus, I appreciate your post and am right there with you. Regarding the racist comment, we only have to look to the Prez to see why any of these comments a... 16 minutes ago
Wellnessmabelle has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 18 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Epiphany: I don't want to be sober
That's about right for where you are Grady. You are still in the grieving process for losing your old friend, booze. It was how you dealt with every emotion.... 21 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Another Stupendous Saturday ... UNTIL ...
Do you live in my neighborhood? I have a liquor store and a frozen yogurt shop in spitting distance. I usually play the tape through to the end. I want one d... 28 minutes ago
SarahB3 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 28 minutes ago



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