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Saffy565 posted a comment on Heeelp!
I hope you held it together and did not succumb to temptation. Even if you did, there is still the ongoing situation with your dad to be addressed. Acceptance... 21 minutes ago
moshymoshy has posted in the forum discussions check in
I haven't checked-in in a while because i have been so busy with my job. I was reminded last night, when reading the 'the unexpected joy of being sober' of the... 27 minutes ago
DeeDee_3 posted a comment on Shout out
Hi Calgary,i received an an email/blog from William Porter of Alcohol Explained about weight loss recently. You can find it here: https://www.alcoholexplained.c... 29 minutes ago
Arran77 posted a comment on Two years sober!
Aw, congratulations TMLB. I hope you had a wonderful celebration to mark two years free 🎉🎉. Great blog full of fantastic tips and reasons to stay well away from... 43 minutes ago
Vespagirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hey guys, this comes under the category of: if you think your life is or was messed up...you are in fact a sanity rock star compared with others. Yesterday, a... 43 minutes ago
golden19 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 58 minutes ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Heeelp!
WarriorQueen, I so feel for you!!!! My grandmother died at 94 last summer, after having dementia for several years. Seeing her decline was absolutely heartbre... 1 hour ago
Naschkatze posted a comment on Treat Friday - February 22nd!
Insomnia sometimes leads one to take Treat Friday into unexpected avenues. Waking up at 4 a.m. (again) for a night owl like me is not fun, but in the early morn... 1 hour ago
Mazza13 posted a comment on Treat Friday - February 22nd!
I’m 10 days A/F and my treat tonight was a Green and Black’s hot chocolate and a meringue. Heavenly. Who knew dipping meringue into hot choc was so amazing?! Re... 1 hour ago
Fernandosclams has commented in the forum discussions February and Feeling Fabulous
Thank you lovely Sparkles for my 10 month certificate! It took me by surprise which was rather special.Kim what a great idea to lead us into March, the month of... 1 hour ago
Liz_171 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
It’s Friday and the WW usually comes to call or at least rears her ugly little head. But I’m prepared. Or so I thought. My OH really ticked me off this afternoo... 1 hour ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on Day 6 - treat day
You're doing great LT, well done. I hope you enjoy the cinema, we used it a lot in the early days as an alternative to the pub. Love Nana Treen xxx 1 hour ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Need to vent!
I was re-reading your comment, RLI, and thinking how strange we humans are, in that we are often able to have great insight into other people, and give excellen... 1 hour ago
Sadhbh has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Tracie_2016 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
QACI! All good in TW XxSaw this earlier and found it very apt 💙 2 hours ago
Strummergirl has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
mutt196 posted a comment on My commitment to living my best life
Welcome aboard. I too dipped in and out. Not fully committed. I can moderate. Bla bla bla. I just finished annie grace for the 2nd time. First time 2 yrs ago fe... 2 hours ago
peace has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Hi Molls, Always so nice when you check in and give us your updates and clever thoughts!!! So funny that your daughter says she would have to pay you not to ask... 2 hours ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Need to vent!
Thanks, Retiredandlovingit. I can't put it into words, but your comment really touched me:-) 2 hours ago
Naschkatze posted a comment on Heeelp!
I feel for you so. This situation is extremely similar to what is happening with my dad, and is really heartbreaking to witness from afar. My stepmother vacilla... 2 hours ago
Ann_18 posted a comment on Don't Ever Become Complacent
DEBC. Great point! Being prepared for what may come our way is good planning. Good insight. Congratulations on 13 days. Enjoy CA. 2 hours ago
AlysR has commented in the forum discussions February and Feeling Fabulous
Evening lovelies,I've arrived home and have been catching up with the calendars. Love to you all to begin with xMamie sending love and hugs; we're here xxLubbie... 2 hours ago
Retiredandlovingit posted a comment on Need to vent!
Wow, that is such a lot for you to carry. My mother, (God rest her) always, always said that men were selfish. I thought that was a strange comment. So I marry... 2 hours ago
Soberforward has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
SuperQaci, Yay Soberistas and yay me 110 days🦋❤️😀!! 2 hours ago
Molls has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
LOL, you look so good Peace. Such a great photo with the strategically placed peace signs. You look so slim, and you say you had a weight problem. Not now, you... 2 hours ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Need to vent!
Thanks, Hawkgirl. I feel so sad. I really love my husband, and there are times when we feel SUPER close. But, you're right. I'm not happy. Our relationship... 2 hours ago
lascot has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick quack to say back from a work trip to Austria, where I successfully navigated two dinners, a minibar in the hotel room, and a 5-hour layover AF. Cheers fo... 2 hours ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Before 3 days ago, I hadn't felt "comfortable" sharing my closet binge drinking Nightmare with my 2 local girlfriends. I suspect they knew Something was amiss e... 2 hours ago
Hawkgirl posted a comment on Need to vent!
Hey SS, all the things I’ve read from you have not been happy. He has some serious problems and ‘typical guy’ throws it back to you. Don’t doubt yourself, don’... 2 hours ago
AFsprings posted a comment on Weekend in London
Thats so lovely. 🍪 x 2 hours ago
tea_lover posted a comment on First Birthday Party AF
Well done, stay strong!! Xx 2 hours ago
Augustine44 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I Augustine44 do hereby give my word, that I do now make a Solemn binding pledge, that I will reject alcohol in All its guises. I join this crusade and my initi... 2 hours ago
Cherrycheesecake posted a comment on Learning to love myself
If (hopefully when) Mark gets in touch and has that face to face conversation with you, could you try to persuade him to try some alternative therapies (if he h... 2 hours ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Can't do it alone
Awww. Was sad to read this and also .... throughout the missing lines I can still feel your strength and courage. There's so many life changing experiences it c... 2 hours ago
Recovery posted a comment on Can't do it alone
Take it one step at a time.The conference then The resignationAnd then, look at the road ahead of you with a clear head. Sobriety makes us take notice of what n... 3 hours ago
Socks has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
TEAM:  SOBERLICIOUS FEB 22 2019TEAM LEADER : RATHERBESWIMMING CONGRATULATIONS TO  EVERYONE ON THE BOARD FOR ANOTHER PRECIOUS 10 DAY! WELCOME TO GREGORYGIRL8, MI... 3 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Heeelp!
Awe hugs. Dementia is the hardest thing. My father died with it a couple of years ago. His progression was relatively slow, but he didn’t tolerate the drugs. We... 3 hours ago
Claregirl posted a comment on Weekend in London
Lovely blog🤗 3 hours ago
Miss_J posted a comment on Weekend in London
sounds a perfect day xxx 3 hours ago
AlysR has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Evening lovely peeps,Firstly a mahoosive shout out to Soberlicious - well done chaps, we're doing this beautifully! It's really good to see Xena on here again,... 3 hours ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Can't do it alone
Thankyou people. Xxx On the plus side, not having a great companion at home atm gives me heaps more time to interact on Soberistas! On the doubleplus side, i ca... 3 hours ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Need to vent!
I so agree, Maria. He hated life in London. He knows how much easier life is here, especially with a spouse to share the load. I know he is grateful. Yet he... 3 hours ago
SunflowerField posted a comment on Weekend in London
Brilliant glad you had a great day xxx 3 hours ago
Retiredandlovingit posted a comment on Weekend in London
Talk about giving me a warm and fuzzy feeling, the best feeling when someone you care about gives you an embrace and sincere thanks for being there and sharing... 3 hours ago
Kazbo has commented in the forum discussions February and Feeling Fabulous
Quick pop in from me, I'm sorry to see so many of you are going through tough times with poorly family members - sending hugs to you all xx.Huge congrats to th... 3 hours ago
Hazlewood posted a comment on Can't do it alone
Well done for not having a drink. Your situation sounds difficult but you are facing the difficulties and that is the only way forward. Leaving work and leaving... 3 hours ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Don't Ever Become Complacent
It's a good reminder. So easy to feel like I've cracked it now, could have a few... no! DBC! 3 hours ago
scruffyterrier posted a comment on Can't do it alone
I don’t know what to say really... such a tough time for you and very sad. The kids will survive a break up as long as the grownups behave themselves and a rema... 3 hours ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Need to vent!
Thanks, Biba! The mad seagull part made me laugh out loud!! 3 hours ago
Turn_the_corner posted a comment on Heeelp!
Don’t do it Warrior Queen. That WW is just trying to slowly wangle her way back into your life. There will always be a reason to have a drink. Always. Good day,... 3 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Need to vent!
Hmm sounds like a tough one.your husband is pretty lucky, in marrying you he has a green card and can work anywhere he likes in the US. It took me over 10 years... 3 hours ago
Kazbo posted a comment on Weekend in London
Sounds perfect!! X 3 hours ago
Biba posted a comment on Need to vent!
Wowsy, girl. All I'm going to say is I can so see why you wanted to rant it out. I would also go outside an scream like a mad seagull and get any left over out... 3 hours ago
love_my_westie has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Not gonna lie, tough evening. Was def down to HALT tho, I was starving waiting for our Chinese to be delivered. Didn’t want to spoil it by snacking so the WW fo... 3 hours ago
TJ has commented in the forum discussions February and Feeling Fabulous
Quick pop in.....thank you everyone for kind thoughts.....feel very supported on here. Mum settled down now and I'm feeling much calmer. Hope everyone is having... 3 hours ago
NewandWild posted a comment on My commitment to living my best life
Sounds like it's the right place, right time for you. Awesome! That is not great about your mum tho. Sorry to hear that. But looking forwars to Aus meetups alre... 3 hours ago
leighandthree has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 3 hours ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Need to vent!
Thanks, CLJ! My husband would love to be a house spouse. He is awesome about cleaning, doing laundry, planting pretty flowers, etc. But he doesn't really wan... 3 hours ago
CLJ posted a comment on My commitment to living my best life
Thank you for sharing some resources Annie grace and William porter. I will check into these. 3 hours ago
Lagla posted a comment on Weekend in London
That sounds lovely. Glad to hear you are having such a great birthday treat with your daughter. Making precious memories xx 3 hours ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on Heeelp!
I hope you held it together and did not succumb to temptation. Even if you did, there is still the ongoing situation with your dad to be addressed. Acceptance... 21 minutes ago
moshymoshy has posted in the forum discussions check in
I haven't checked-in in a while because i have been so busy with my job. I was reminded last night, when reading the 'the unexpected joy of being sober' of the... 27 minutes ago
DeeDee_3 posted a comment on Shout out
Hi Calgary,i received an an email/blog from William Porter of Alcohol Explained about weight loss recently. You can find it here: https://www.alcoholexplained.c... 29 minutes ago
Arran77 posted a comment on Two years sober!
Aw, congratulations TMLB. I hope you had a wonderful celebration to mark two years free 🎉🎉. Great blog full of fantastic tips and reasons to stay well away from... 43 minutes ago
Vespagirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hey guys, this comes under the category of: if you think your life is or was messed up...you are in fact a sanity rock star compared with others. Yesterday, a... 43 minutes ago
golden19 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 58 minutes ago
SeekingSerenity69 posted a comment on Heeelp!
WarriorQueen, I so feel for you!!!! My grandmother died at 94 last summer, after having dementia for several years. Seeing her decline was absolutely heartbre... 1 hour ago
Naschkatze posted a comment on Treat Friday - February 22nd!
Insomnia sometimes leads one to take Treat Friday into unexpected avenues. Waking up at 4 a.m. (again) for a night owl like me is not fun, but in the early morn... 1 hour ago
Mazza13 posted a comment on Treat Friday - February 22nd!
I’m 10 days A/F and my treat tonight was a Green and Black’s hot chocolate and a meringue. Heavenly. Who knew dipping meringue into hot choc was so amazing?! Re... 1 hour ago
Fernandosclams has commented in the forum discussions February and Feeling Fabulous
Thank you lovely Sparkles for my 10 month certificate! It took me by surprise which was rather special.Kim what a great idea to lead us into March, the month of... 1 hour ago



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After two decades of drinking more than I ever set out to, I kicked the booze once and for all in April 2011. In 2012 I set up soberistas.com and now work full time as editor of the site and am a passionate advocate of alcohol-free living. If you would like to get in touch please email me on lucy@soberistas.com - I’d love to hear from you!

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