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Flyby has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 3 minutes ago
miriam_3 posted a comment on Sick of it
Hi I agree with all the feedback you have had here already. I am also a serial 'trier' but know I will make it eventually. I haven't even achieved 40 days so we... 5 minutes ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on Failed
Hello fevertree, don't beat yourself about it. Try to focus on the 47 days you've already achieved, which is amazing. Sort out your survival box a bit and off y... 7 minutes ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on My hidden life
Ingy, what a wonderful post!! I think one of the things that makes soberistas special is that here we all do know and have all been there to some extent, one wa... 11 minutes ago
App1990 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 22 minutes ago
Ingi23 posted a comment on Any advice?
Hey Hope, just read this, not the comments yet.theres one thing I learned, not to think about future events tooo much.go day by day, and while of course beeing... 24 minutes ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on Sick of it
One of my favourite mantras is ‘don’t judge your insides by other people’s outsides’ - your friends may well not be in a fog of bliss. You probably look that wa... 27 minutes ago
Daisy4leafclover posted a comment on Sick of it
Those 40 days haven’t gone anywhere, like others have said, whatever helps you. I had to stop because every time I went back to drinking and moderating it was... 30 minutes ago
Isabelle2 posted a comment on Sick of it
Hey you are back on here so well done. Think of the 40 days rest your body has had & the good it has done you. Now you are ready to start again. You don't... 30 minutes ago
itchyandscratchy posted a comment on Worried...
Thanks twigbonefeather and mummy juice for your words of wisdom! I am still feeling a little unwell, but in the past alcohol would have anaesthetised any pain a... 36 minutes ago
Faithfaery has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to the month makers TMLB, Herewego and Vase.Congratulations too to RBS, Susie Annabel, Phillybear,Freedom,Sarnia Blades and Lorna Mack. All fabu... 41 minutes ago
Farleighgirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good Morning to everyone on this crisp and sunny Sunday.Thank you for my birthday wishes, I've been celebrating since Thursday. I went to see Blondie at Brixton... 42 minutes ago
Hellokaty posted a comment on Socialising Sober - It's always awkward before it's elegant
Hiya x so glad it’s useful - it’s really useful to read it myself and just recap the tools ..love what you say angel - you will indeed shine till the end of the... 42 minutes ago
Artygirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
OMG, it's like Tracie was meant to write that post for me this morning! Weird one.I am here and I am AF. However, I had another bloody crap saturday night - w... 43 minutes ago
Newlife77 has commented in the forum discussions NO Alcohol November
DD, sending you love and strength, sometimes a good cry is what we need and can be very healing. Could you spend a little time tomorrow just for you? XxxHubby... 45 minutes ago
WCA has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Small Clanger how fantastic to have you here, and what a poignant blog. Stay here and rest a while with us :-) SeaChange your Mum is so fortunate having the mos... 45 minutes ago
lisaskio has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morming everyone, it is a nice crisp day here, just getting ready to take the dog out, I feel very grateful to feel wide awake and fresh as a daisy. I was... 46 minutes ago
Lizzy28 posted a comment on Sick of it
100% support! counting does not work for all. I have set different goals - one important one for me is that I go long enough that I'm no longer considered the "... 46 minutes ago
daydreamer has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning everyone, congratulations to TMLB for 9 months, HWG 8 months,Vase 3 months.Also RBS for 350 days,Suzie 190,Blades 120, Annabelle 80, Phillybear 60, Free... 47 minutes ago
Artygirl has commented in the forum discussions NO Alcohol November
* DayD - I thought that was our cool Kady, but it turns out to be Sarnia! I understand why you feel upset today. That's a lot of emotional upheaval in a day a... 48 minutes ago
Krissee posted a comment on Sick of it
Thank you for being honest and posting this blog. I too am a 'tryer'. I don't have even 40 consecutive days under my belt but I have really improved my relation... 48 minutes ago
steveo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Besides, I'm going to be meeting loads of my Besties this Saturday in Sheffield, how awesome is that???? 49 minutes ago
Herewego has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning all, ACI - havent been on for a while but still AF and just seen on Steveos stats that I am 8 months AF...wowsers.For all the newbies stay with this si... 49 minutes ago
Faithfaery posted a comment on Sick of it
Bloomwoz I know how upsetting it can be to feel like you've lost those 40 days but you haven't. Everyone's journey is different. Some will have one day one wher... 51 minutes ago
Tracie_2016 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning all! I really wish I could bottle how amazing it feels to wake up having not drunk on a weekend, in fact any day, 331 days in and a Sunday morning... 51 minutes ago
Lulu_13 posted a comment on Recreate yourself in a new line of time
you are an inspiration. Thanks for your generosity in continuing to post on here x 51 minutes ago
steveo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi All,Hi Maz, yes i'm using an ice pack for my knee, it brings temporary relief from pain.There's more than an arthritis issue going on with this knee methinks... 53 minutes ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on My day - the JOMO
Me toooo! Your positive attitude to your sobriety has been an inspiration to me from day one. At first I was just trusting you and other Istas with blind faith... 53 minutes ago
pinklady_1 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I havent seen the board in weeks!-so I must be lifting my head out of thethe hase again. In time to see TMLB on 9 glorious months! Yay! And to vase and herewego... 53 minutes ago
HB Pencil posted a comment on Any advice?
Haven’t read everything below yet but Hope, I think it would be madness to have a drink. Someone advised me once that as long as I believed I needed that glass... 54 minutes ago
Eliza_95 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
CCG you are to be admired in coping with such odds , you can now look forward to better times , I feel incredibly hopeful for you . Glorious sunny day here -I l... 55 minutes ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on Freeway Near-Miss
That sent shivers down my spine...reflecting on what we gain and all that could have been lost, or risked is part of what can keep our resolve strong and our he... 55 minutes ago
Rose_83 posted a comment on This is not Ben Hur ...
Brilliant , thank you x 56 minutes ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on Sick of it
Hey bloomwoz, don't be so hard on yourself!! Trying is bloody hard work and is more than many can do a lot of the time. I know how you feel, because I blipped t... 58 minutes ago
daydreamer has commented in the forum discussions NO Alcohol November
I know how hard you,ve worked Sarnia xx 59 minutes ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on My day - the JOMO
Samira, I'm so glad you feel that way - I do too!! And you know what? Ignore those people. It's not their business anyway. Last time I went AF, when people aske... 1 hour ago
Artygirl has commented in the forum discussions NO Alcohol November
Happy Birthday KadyLots of loveArty xox 1 hour ago
Cherry has commented in the forum discussions NO Alcohol November
Morning Peeps - and happy birthday to Kady! Have a lovely sAFe Sunday everyone, quick ACI,19th NOvember so 19 days af this month and altogether 44/100. Love to... 1 hour ago
Herewego has commented in the forum discussions The Inbetweeners
Hello everybody. I hope you dont mind me joining in? I haven't really been on the main site recently due to new job and generally busy life. I have glanced thro... 1 hour ago
pollyk has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning guys!Welcome to the new folks & well done to those hitting milestones today 🎉ACI, had a great time at the engagement party last night, for those in... 1 hour ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on Any advice?
Read this late, but you seem to know what to do now :-), big hug to you, xxxx 1 hour ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on My day - the JOMO
Hello Samira, I look forward to the day when nobody feels the need to hide the fact that they are NOT drinking or make elaborate arrangements to avoid conversat... 1 hour ago
daydreamer has commented in the forum discussions NO Alcohol November
Meant to say I won't get back on til tomorrow . Sis leaving to go back to America tomorrow :( I am staying at mums tonight as she will be upset and confused in... 1 hour ago
pinklady_1 posted a comment on This is not Ben Hur ...
I am where u were at WCA when u wrote this. I haved already completly pared my committments back to 1. Ista neet up. 2. My kids. Work dos out. Extended family a... 1 hour ago
twigbonefeather has posted the blog Day Ten - woo-hoo!!!!!
Day 10, lovely people, and after my sorry, unfortunate blip 11 days ago, I cannot begin to describe how sweet the feeling is, made so much sweeter by the fact t... 1 hour ago
Morningwalker has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Ooh SC my heart missed a beat when I saw Max’s handsome face as I logged on! How lovely to have you here and I really enjoyed your blog. 1,000 days very soon, t... 1 hour ago
Blondehippie posted a comment on Sick of it
Hello Bloomwoz, like you said don´t beat yourself up. You already did 40 days which is a big number. If counting sets you under pressure then just don´t. It´s y... 1 hour ago
Coffeebean has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi All - Rosalita don't feel a failure - as Lorna Mack says below, you're back here and that's the important thing. I did what you did when I was almost at day... 1 hour ago
Libby has posted the blog Not a good start to the day
Not sure really what to say , except , it is not a good start to the day and as usual I am now trying hard to work out is it me or his it him or does it really... 1 hour ago
cmg posted a comment on Sick of it
You’re still here Bloomwaz, and that means something. Go easy on yourself. Xxx 1 hour ago
Nana Treen has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Oh thank you lovely Clanger, that's beautiful. The good news is that we can take exploratory forays down many pathways and they won't close behind us or seek t... 1 hour ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on Taking a stand against the Christmas booze bull***t
Thank you so much everyone! Nightmare that was some serious sober muscle there 💪. Will PM you xxx 1 hour ago
Hope123 posted a comment on Any advice?
Just a huge thank you to everyone‘s advice! I just wondered if anyone would say, 1 day will be fine....As a result of your responses, I’m going to chat to OH t... 1 hour ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on My Tribe
And thank you, Samira, for your wonderful post and words this morning!! May we all have a warm, comfortable Christmas, full of love, scented candles and quiet m... 1 hour ago
steveo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
THE AF100 THREAD DAILY STATISTICS FOR SUNDAY 19TH NOVEMBER 2017.Here's todays month makers,Congratulations to;****TAKINGMYLIFEBACK**** for 9 months dry.****HER... 1 hour ago
pollyk posted a comment on Any advice?
No, don’t do it! It was my OHs birthday back in October. We went away to a nice hotel just the two of us & I had the exact same feelings as you as a meal &a... 1 hour ago
daydreamer has commented in the forum discussions NO Alcohol November
ŶWell done Kady!!! The best birthday present you can give yourself is to be AF. Good for you Wake Up, I knew you would get through party, I said you would enjo... 1 hour ago
angel44 posted a comment on Socialising Sober - It's always awkward before it's elegant
Thank you for this wonderful blog,I am a little scared about entering into the silly season,(am 3months AF),but will take all these tools with me.My favourite p... 1 hour ago
Fevertree has posted the blog Failed
I have been hanging around the site for a couple of months now.In the background,not making a sound(which is uncharacteristic)So with all your inspirational sto... 1 hour ago
Ingi23 has posted the blog My hidden life
As it is Sunday morning, and I am sitting on my couch having tea, and the sun is shining through the orange and red fall leaves in my garden , I am thinking abo... 1 hour ago
Flyby has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 3 minutes ago
miriam_3 posted a comment on Sick of it
Hi I agree with all the feedback you have had here already. I am also a serial 'trier' but know I will make it eventually. I haven't even achieved 40 days so we... 5 minutes ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on Failed
Hello fevertree, don't beat yourself about it. Try to focus on the 47 days you've already achieved, which is amazing. Sort out your survival box a bit and off y... 7 minutes ago
twigbonefeather posted a comment on My hidden life
Ingy, what a wonderful post!! I think one of the things that makes soberistas special is that here we all do know and have all been there to some extent, one wa... 11 minutes ago
App1990 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 22 minutes ago
Ingi23 posted a comment on Any advice?
Hey Hope, just read this, not the comments yet.theres one thing I learned, not to think about future events tooo much.go day by day, and while of course beeing... 24 minutes ago
takingmylifeback posted a comment on Sick of it
One of my favourite mantras is ‘don’t judge your insides by other people’s outsides’ - your friends may well not be in a fog of bliss. You probably look that wa... 27 minutes ago
Daisy4leafclover posted a comment on Sick of it
Those 40 days haven’t gone anywhere, like others have said, whatever helps you. I had to stop because every time I went back to drinking and moderating it was... 30 minutes ago
Isabelle2 posted a comment on Sick of it
Hey you are back on here so well done. Think of the 40 days rest your body has had & the good it has done you. Now you are ready to start again. You don't... 30 minutes ago
itchyandscratchy posted a comment on Worried...
Thanks twigbonefeather and mummy juice for your words of wisdom! I am still feeling a little unwell, but in the past alcohol would have anaesthetised any pain a... 36 minutes ago



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Interview with Andy Ahmad-Cooke by Lucy Rocca


A Coffee And A Chat With Andy @ The Edge Café, Cambridge  A few years ago, funding was awarded to build a recovery hub in Cambridge, UK, a working café open to the public but with a recovery-based focus. The café forms a visible, public-facing d...

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Baby, I’ve Got The Blues By Emma Young


Becoming a parent is surely the most exciting of all life changes. Sure, the first few months - when the baby doesn’t sleep well and the household is adjusting to having an entirely new, utterly absorbing focus - are tough. But from then on in, the i...

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Becoming a parent is surely the most exciting of all life changes. Sure, the first few months - when...

Happy 5th Birthday Soberistas! By Lucy Rocca


As it’s Soberistas’ 5th birthday on November 26th 2017, we are reposting this – the article I wrote five years ago and which Alastair Campbell generously posted on his bloghttp://www.alastaircampbell.org back in late summer 2012. This was the piece o...

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As it’s Soberistas’ 5th birthday on November 26th 2017, we are reposting this – the article I wrote...

The Power Of Online Support Groups By Sally Sangar


Several years ago I was widowed at a young age. It was, as you can imagine, devastating, but it was also isolating, as no one else I knew had gone through anything like that.  My peers were engaged in bringing up children not arranging funerals....

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