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Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 98- going the distance
You apologise every time you post a blog that isn't 100% kick your heels in the air happy. It's always more than OK! I appreciate how you just describe where yo... 3 minutes ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on Taking stock of your blogs
WOW!!! 17 months is AMAZING!!! Congrats! "without alcohol I am free of the burden and doubt for one huge thing" loved this! 9 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Never give up !!
...Never surrender! You're getting straight back to your AF choice and getting the support in place that you need. Someone at my local alcohol team told me that... 12 minutes ago
PachouliPepper posted a comment on Sunday fearless
Not today...that is it.xx 13 minutes ago
PachouliPepper posted a comment on Never give up !!
Big hugs waiting for you in Dublin...xx 15 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day Sixteen
You sound like you're taking steady steps forward and your feet are hitting the ground firmly. Lovely to read. Happy Sunday Jessie X 16 minutes ago
LuluP has commented in the forum discussions Navigating Sobriety
Afternoon. Just got home from a football tournament, 3 hrs standing in a field! Had hoped weather would be glorious but it was a bit chilly for me. Susie, I lov... 16 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day Two - Easy Peasy!!!
You could totally rock those trousers Siesta. Love your list of things that one blip has not stolen from you :D. Wish you could have taken a pic of your face wh... 18 minutes ago
Ruthy83 has posted the blog Eating out
We went out for dinner last night. So far, in my AF bubble, I have stayed at home in the evening. But the OH is back after about a month of business travel and... 22 minutes ago
Embem posted a comment on Day 96 and all is well
Well done! We’re sober twins (Day 96 for me too) ... you got this xxx 24 minutes ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on Denial is not a river in Egypt!
Welcome!!!! 25 minutes ago
Embem posted a comment on Denial is not a river in Egypt!
What a great blog, Minnie! I’ve book marked it to read for when the wine witch rears her ugly head. Good luck. You can do this xxx 26 minutes ago
Embem posted a comment on I drank on day 33
Your blog is a reminder to all of us that alcohol never ever helps. I’m sorry you had to go through that but it’s great that you can see it for what it is. Back... 29 minutes ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on I drank on day 33
Live and learn, right???? You and I can march on together. (= 29 minutes ago
Sunnie posted a comment on Never give up !!
Thank you everyone for your supportive messages , I feel so exhausted today and look it also .....I suppose google is the best place to start looking at counsel... 30 minutes ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on Sunday fearless
Sounds like a lovely morning. Little ones are exhausting, but so precious!!!! Thanks for blogging the positives!!! They are always a wonderful reminder. 31 minutes ago
Embem posted a comment on Sunday fearless
What a powerful and uplifting blog. Well done BrainFix :) xxx 32 minutes ago
Embem posted a comment on Never give up !!
You can do this. We’ve all had plenty of day 1s and the main thing is that you’re here again. Take good care and stay close to this site xxx 33 minutes ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on Never give up !!
Counseling can be SUPER helpful. My free advice to you is to give the person a chance, as not everyone clicks right away. I used to give it at least three tim... 35 minutes ago
Embem posted a comment on Woo hoo, surfing sober
Ah so glad you are having a break and enjoying yourself xx 35 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 14 why such a bitch?
I've just had a really irritable week too! I think it comes and goes but gets better in the long run. At least it's a sign you're getting more energy than you u... 37 minutes ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on Woo hoo, surfing sober
You crazy sober gal!!! Sounds fun, have a great day. 39 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Woo hoo, surfing sober
Have an amazing time! 😁 40 minutes ago
Burnsie has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Just checking in and saying congratulati9ns to my other superstars. 30 days for me and feeling good today. Had a major emotional wobble yesterda, I didn’t want... 40 minutes ago
SiestaSober has posted the blog My Whys
Why I want to be AF. When drinking alcohol:1.) I am an anti-social cave troll! 2.) I am bloated goat. 3.) I am depressed like Eeyore, scared like piglet, and w... 41 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on I drank on day 33
Sorry your Friday was so tough and hope the weekend is helping to ease the stress. Thank you for sharing your blog and hope you get back to where you want to be... 41 minutes ago
Jessie_20 posted a comment on Day Sixteen
Thankyou my lovely istas!! As always. ❤️ 42 minutes ago
Jessie_20 posted a comment on Sunday fearless
Awesome!! Sounds like a beautiful morning in Your house. May it be the first of many, many lovely SundayS to come. 45 minutes ago
Monajoan has posted the blog Woo hoo, surfing sober
So I'm on my first full week holiday in North Devon. Cider country! 😔 I only used to have a couple of halves and I had had enough. Wine was always my downfall..... 46 minutes ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Day 5 and a Beautiful morning!
It is really important to reframe your thinking around alcohol and it sounds like you're doing exactly that. It is a liar and a thief, indeed! X 59 minutes ago
Molls has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Hey lovelies. Omg 87 Peace? It's been in the low 50's here, rainy and this is Southern California.I like it though. Wow, but weren't you snowing, raining a week... 1 hour ago
Soil has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Bloodyhell Wander. My God you are a saint. i bow to you getting through that. Vespa I hope you get through today. Well I am on month 8 and I’m tackling my bi... 1 hour ago
BreathRun posted a comment on Sunday fearless
Yes! These are the beautiful bits that make us want more AF. Keep going! 1 hour ago
BreathRun posted a comment on Day 5 and a Beautiful morning!
Sally, this blog is filled with focus and determination! Keep going. You're doing great! 1 hour ago
HannahKaren has posted the blog Saturday 8th June in Stirling
Hi. We are having a meet up on 8th June if anyone lives close by. Just find us under Blogs, Forum Discussion, Soberistas Meet Ups. 1 hour ago
Karenf has commented in the forum discussions May and Blooming Marvellous
Afternoon everyone, quick check in on the phone.Made it back from a meet up in Huddersfield to sunny but gusty Cheshire.Avoiding the mad queue for the Trafford... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Denial is not a river in Egypt!
It's time to do this for real, Minnie! With you all the way x 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on I drank on day 33
A good lesson but sorry you had to go through that! X 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Sunday fearless
No going back! Freeedom! X 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Taking stock of your blogs
17 months is huge. Was talking to a friend on Friday about how hard it is to re-start, in part because the novelty of that initial achievement has gone stale. Y... 1 hour ago
Vogue posted a comment on Never give up !!
Positive thoughts for Dublin 👍 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Day 96 and all is well
It is such a good feeling these says to just be doing the thing you're doing, without that constant "when can I drink/more" dialogue buzzing away. I love it too... 1 hour ago
Bubble_11 has commented in the forum discussions May and Blooming Marvellous
Hi Buds. QQ again. working until Tuesday morning. Then OH is away for a couple of days so I shall have the house to myself fora couple of days, for the first ti... 1 hour ago
Margaret41 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Thanks Flopsy! 70 days for you!!!!! Well done lady, you are doing it! 💃🏻🎉🎊🎈Enjoy 😘 1 hour ago
Vanessa_3 posted a comment on Taking stock of your blogs
Lizbee - congratulations on 17 months! Just a few weeks until 18 months for you, SUCH a huge achievement.I’m coming up to six months next week and definitely ne... 2 hours ago
reflog has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
Biba posted a comment on I drank on day 33
It's a learning curve for you SAF. Keep this blog and read it especially last para when next tempted. Xx 2 hours ago
Robin13 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Day 92.I will not be drinking today. Enjoy the day, alcohol free! 2 hours ago
Kim has commented in the forum discussions May and Blooming Marvellous
Quick quack, busy day. Just wanted to say to Rachel, I am so, so happy for you! That house is gorgeous! Everyone was right; something better came along! Back is... 2 hours ago
naturebelle posted a comment on Never give up !!
Me too Sunnie. I did 10 good days and then went and got a bottle of wine...just like that. Now 7 after days of drinking, am starting again. I lost 10 days of ne... 2 hours ago
everoptimistic has posted in the forum discussions Back to square 1.
Hi everyoneI joined Soberistas in March 2019. I was 77 AF then relapsed at Easter. I went back into rehab for the second time after 11 days of heavy drinking, w... 2 hours ago
Margaret41 has commented in the forum discussions May and Blooming Marvellous
Morning friends!Rachel, yes yes yes! That house is adorable! So happy for you!Kim, still not going to celebrate your house because you are still cautious but... 2 hours ago
Kopanda posted a comment on Day 14 why such a bitch?
Yeah it passes. your body is working so hard that patience and anything extra is going to be at the bottom of the priority list for your body. on day 14 your bo... 2 hours ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Everoptimistic (Love that 💪), Rainbow1 and all of our Newbies - Mahoosive Welcome 💚💛🧡❤!You've come to the right place 🥰 O 2 hours ago
Kazza01 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
AlysR has commented in the forum discussions May and Blooming Marvellous
Super quick ask....Husband has just booked us into a hotel in Glasgow on Tuesday night. We’ll be there from lunchtime Tues to late afternoon Wed. Anyone around... 2 hours ago
Escoffier has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
I’m here. We are at the lake. Yesterday it rained all day and we all coped in this little cabin. That is a major benefit of being sober. The rain stopped about... 2 hours ago
everoptimistic has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I was 77 days AF then relapsed at Easter. I am rejoining the 100 day crusade with 3 May 2019 as my new day 1. I, everoptimistic do hereby give my word, that I d... 2 hours ago
Flopsybunny5 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Christ on a bike Wander!! Bloody kudos to you. That is all.....😳💪🏻❤️Have got to say D4LC - 10 days my lovely 🙌⭐️🙌⭐️🙌⭐️ KOKO the best is yet to come. The hardest... 2 hours ago
Emwaromida has commented in the forum discussions May and Blooming Marvellous
Hello everyone, Congratulations to everyone on Sparkles fab boards today 🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟Clams 400 days 🎉🌟🎉😊fab xTJTB 32 months amazing 🎉🌟🎉I’m so happy you found us at... 2 hours ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 98- going the distance
You apologise every time you post a blog that isn't 100% kick your heels in the air happy. It's always more than OK! I appreciate how you just describe where yo... 3 minutes ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on Taking stock of your blogs
WOW!!! 17 months is AMAZING!!! Congrats! "without alcohol I am free of the burden and doubt for one huge thing" loved this! 9 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Never give up !!
...Never surrender! You're getting straight back to your AF choice and getting the support in place that you need. Someone at my local alcohol team told me that... 12 minutes ago
PachouliPepper posted a comment on Sunday fearless
Not today...that is it.xx 13 minutes ago
PachouliPepper posted a comment on Never give up !!
Big hugs waiting for you in Dublin...xx 15 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day Sixteen
You sound like you're taking steady steps forward and your feet are hitting the ground firmly. Lovely to read. Happy Sunday Jessie X 16 minutes ago
LuluP has commented in the forum discussions Navigating Sobriety
Afternoon. Just got home from a football tournament, 3 hrs standing in a field! Had hoped weather would be glorious but it was a bit chilly for me. Susie, I lov... 16 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day Two - Easy Peasy!!!
You could totally rock those trousers Siesta. Love your list of things that one blip has not stolen from you :D. Wish you could have taken a pic of your face wh... 18 minutes ago
Ruthy83 has posted the blog Eating out
We went out for dinner last night. So far, in my AF bubble, I have stayed at home in the evening. But the OH is back after about a month of business travel and... 22 minutes ago
Embem posted a comment on Day 96 and all is well
Well done! We’re sober twins (Day 96 for me too) ... you got this xxx 24 minutes ago



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