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Kop posted a comment on Holiday reading suggestions please
Oooh, happy holidays honey, hope you have a fabulous time. I love "Wasted - my lush sobriety" as a holiday read xxx 41 seconds ago
MAZ has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick check inWelcome newcomers so many 😃Maz xx16/100 1 minute ago
Square-Peg posted a comment on Day 13 - still good
Well done keep going 6 minutes ago
Square-Peg posted a comment on Here because I want to live
Thankyou for your post as a very newly sober it's great encouragement 8 minutes ago
Lavender1 posted a comment on Ups and Downs
Wonderful blog Hellokaty. My therapist introduced the idea of 'shifting sands' which I found a really helpful way of looking at the changes that happen as time... 13 minutes ago
Rainbowfish7 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
🌈🐠(102/200) apparently I can't count! No surprises there.Ive not been on line so much lately,what with stuff going on and also being aware that my iPad is open... 18 minutes ago
Rosebud_6 has posted the blog 1st real blog
Hi everyone avidly reading all your blogs again and now back on day 8, reading the replies which are so supportive and honest has made me realise I also need t... 22 minutes ago
Sheer has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Morning all Quick post as heigh ho, heigh ho it's off to work I go.......!Lovely to hear your voice on here Sue and what an utterly devastating event with which... 24 minutes ago
Rainbowfish7 posted a comment on Falling Off The Wagon - Again
Welcome Spidey!theres loads of support here for you.Check out the 100 day thread to help you keep sober day to day once you're safely ready x 31 minutes ago
Megan _4 has posted the blog Last day of single numbers - day 9
Yesterday was a day I was very worried about. We had my granny's funeral, followed by an all mighty piss up. Booze flowed freely all afternoon and evening. Amyw... 32 minutes ago
Rosie_65 posted a comment on Ups and Downs
Your blog has really helped me HK , I'm having a flat and low time at the moment , I know it will pass , thank you for sharing xx 47 minutes ago
3rd Crow Wing posted a comment on Falling Off The Wagon - Again
Welcome to soberistas, Spideywebz. I'm glad you're here. Stopping drinking really is a life-saving measure and I hope you can kick alcohol to the curb for good.... 55 minutes ago
Rosie_65 posted a comment on Here because I want to live
Great blog beaker thank you xxx 56 minutes ago
DustyRose has posted the blog What's happening to our site??!!
What's with all the negativity???i get enough of that at home!!This sight has been my saviour hope it settles soon or mummy is off!!!!have a lovely day all xxbe... 57 minutes ago
3rd Crow Wing posted a comment on No Regrets
I like the phrase you used, "I was respectably addicted to alcohol." I think many of us were there and would say we were "high functioning alcoholics" because w... 1 hour ago
Morningwalker has posted the blog Holiday reading suggestions please
Morning - off to Greece soon for a week's R and R and would love any suggestions for some books to pop on my Kindle please. MW x 1 hour ago
Morningwalker posted a comment on Here because I want to live
Great blog, thanks Beaker. You're spot on about needing to reach the point when the instinct to survive overcomes the addiction. I think this is the key to enab... 1 hour ago
Savannah55 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Dec192015 posted a comment on The Downside of The Invasion!! Please don’t scroll past if you’re fed up of hearing about it!
Whoooaaa - hey Cade, dude.  Several things 1) you need to read a bit more closely then maybe you won't need to ask so many questions  2) The rules of the frat o... 1 hour ago
Rainbow _1 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I Rainbow do hereby give my word, that I do now make a solemn binding pledge, that I will reject alcohol in all its guises. I join this crusade and my initial... 1 hour ago
3rd Crow Wing posted a comment on Ups and Downs
Just reading this blog now sweetheart. DY has just left for the airport and in typical DY fashion, has blown in and out again. I haven't yet had time to experie... 1 hour ago
Chimp has posted the blog Sugar (Honey, Honey)
Thanks for all your headache encouragement yesterday. Thinking about it my caffeine intake isn't a concern (it's less than it would have been trying to countera... 1 hour ago
Scottish lass posted a comment on Positive vibes
Keep going, it's worth it! Xx 1 hour ago
Escoffier posted a comment on Learning lessons. Making progress.
It's great that you are here on the site blogging things out. May i be so bold as to suggest the 100day crusade thread? There is lots of support in that threa... 1 hour ago
Montanamagz has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick check-in, all good here in Montana-land. Welcome to all the newcomers!MM205/300 2 hours ago
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Storygirl has commented in the forum discussions Scared to start...
My mistake. The Chloe mentioned above wrote this 4 years ago? I don't know that she's active on the site now. To all newcomers, please consider blogging on the... 4 hours ago
Storygirl has commented in the forum discussions Scared to start...
Dearest Chloe and despicableme, first off, let me say that it was very difficult for me to type that name because you're not​ despicable. Not remotely!!! Alcoho... 4 hours ago
Cade posted a comment on The Downside of The Invasion!! Please don’t scroll past if you’re fed up of hearing about it!
Hey Dec192015, I could have sworn you left this site. Do you remember the farewell speech? Maybe Im thinking of someone different but I dont think so. Being AF... 4 hours ago
Courtneyehansen has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 4 hours ago
Michelle_132 has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Hi, friends. I am loving spending time with my mom but I'm looking forward to getting back on a posting schedule. I feel like I'm all over the place! Anastasia... 5 hours ago
Changing-ME posted a comment on Retrospective day 1
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! 5 hours ago
Changing-ME posted a comment on Time
Good for you! I love this!! 5 hours ago
Molls has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
OH my gosh Sue, how devastingly sad about your sister's niece. Sixteen years old should be looking to a future full of good plans. Oh to find her in a barn, her... 5 hours ago
despicableme has commented in the forum discussions Scared to start...
Hi Chloe 55 I am with you. I woke up today to kill myself. I didn't go through with it as the house is a mess so shame stopped me. I had an interview and I didn... 5 hours ago
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Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Thank Yall for helping me remain free. This thread is amazing..Welcome Monica, Elodea, DawnShanti, and Sarah..Opti, made me laugh. I learned about fags from Nan... 5 hours ago
LPEK1106 posted a comment on Loving Your Sober Holiday By Bex Weller
This is very timely for me as I'm going on my first sober vacation in a few days. I find myself getting anxious in the lead up and this is a great read. I am 71... 5 hours ago
SigitaMarija has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 hours ago
SueS_3 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
I am happily unaware of the wars going on on the main site...when you live in the US, you are so damn frightened that the president is going to say something th... 6 hours ago
Monica395 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I, Monica395, do hereby give my word, that I do now make aSolemn binding pledge, that I will reject alcohol inAll its guises. I join this crusade and my initial... 6 hours ago
elaineh2003 posted a comment on Day 13 - still good
Well done on day 13! AF holidays bring new joys: for example sleeping in and waking up hangover free and ready to spend the entire wonderful day with your fam... 6 hours ago
Anastasia has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Hello Everyone....Well Day 2 is done and dusted. On to Day 3!Snicky.....I died laughing at that picture! You have such a fantastic sense of humor....I love it... 6 hours ago
Hokster has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi all - a heartfelt and huge thanks for all your kind words of encouragement. I feel so warm and fuzzy from all the support! Honestly, this site and you all ar... 6 hours ago
Cka posted a comment on Wish me luck
A smart lady taught me "delay, decide,distract" for when the little monster is sitting on you shoulder whispering in your ear "one, won't hurt" "you can start... 7 hours ago
GeoffTheBass posted a comment on Dealing with Stress without alcohol
Hi. I'm not sure there's any magic to managing stress. I stayed AF by avoiding opportunities to drink, going straight home after work, no alcohol in the house,... 7 hours ago
Michelle_132 has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
I see the pic now. I must not have had good service at the nail salon. 😂😂😂 7 hours ago
GeoffTheBass posted a comment on Soberista meet-ups burn calories
3CW :-). Mutual appreciation society, members only. You've made me see so many things from a different perspective, 3CW, and it's fascinating to adjust and lear... 7 hours ago
3rd Crow Wing posted a comment on Epic fail...
Elodea, I did the very same thing at the beginning of May. Sober for 21 months and then...Bam! An epic two day binge that put me right back I to my old drinking... 7 hours ago
Cka posted a comment on Wish me luck
Ss, don't think about caving.... just know that you won't.Have a great time and enjoy every minute. 7 hours ago
GeoffTheBass posted a comment on Soberista meet-ups burn calories
Petrol in the engine is great way of putting it HK, but it was also having everything turned up to 10 for me during the meets.It's more about the cake for me Su... 7 hours ago
GeoffTheBass posted a comment on Ups and Downs
Just what I needed today HK, thank you for sharing. After bouncing around for the last few days after two meets I had something happen at work towards the end o... 7 hours ago
3rd Crow Wing posted a comment on Soberista meet-ups burn calories
Oh wow, I hope I burned a ton of calories this week to make up for all the food I ate this week. Hotel Chocolat.... I LOVE you. Geoff, my sobro, I told you this... 7 hours ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on Soberista meet-ups burn calories
Ooh lovely. I'm so sorry I couldn't make Sunday! Hope to meet you one day soon. X 8 hours ago
HB Pencil has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Evening all,I have been so busy with sons arriving back from uni plus friends visiting, I have not had time so write or give a considered response to anything.... 8 hours ago
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Tracie_2016 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good evening you lovely lot! Sooo pleased to have you back Clare. Cannot wait for more updates, been thinking about you daily. Hope those of you having tough ti... 8 hours ago
Heart and Soul has posted the blog Day 13 - still good
Nothing exciting or unusual to report, which is kinda good 😎. Not had too many " I really miss booze " thoughts but not long until our holiday and I did have a... 8 hours ago
Kop posted a comment on Holiday reading suggestions please
Oooh, happy holidays honey, hope you have a fabulous time. I love "Wasted - my lush sobriety" as a holiday read xxx 41 seconds ago
MAZ has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick check inWelcome newcomers so many 😃Maz xx16/100 1 minute ago
Square-Peg posted a comment on Day 13 - still good
Well done keep going 6 minutes ago
Square-Peg posted a comment on Here because I want to live
Thankyou for your post as a very newly sober it's great encouragement 8 minutes ago
Lavender1 posted a comment on Ups and Downs
Wonderful blog Hellokaty. My therapist introduced the idea of 'shifting sands' which I found a really helpful way of looking at the changes that happen as time... 13 minutes ago
Rainbowfish7 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
🌈🐠(102/200) apparently I can't count! No surprises there.Ive not been on line so much lately,what with stuff going on and also being aware that my iPad is open... 18 minutes ago
Rosebud_6 has posted the blog 1st real blog
Hi everyone avidly reading all your blogs again and now back on day 8, reading the replies which are so supportive and honest has made me realise I also need t... 22 minutes ago
Sheer has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Morning all Quick post as heigh ho, heigh ho it's off to work I go.......!Lovely to hear your voice on here Sue and what an utterly devastating event with which... 24 minutes ago
Rainbowfish7 posted a comment on Falling Off The Wagon - Again
Welcome Spidey!theres loads of support here for you.Check out the 100 day thread to help you keep sober day to day once you're safely ready x 31 minutes ago
Megan _4 has posted the blog Last day of single numbers - day 9
Yesterday was a day I was very worried about. We had my granny's funeral, followed by an all mighty piss up. Booze flowed freely all afternoon and evening. Amyw... 32 minutes ago



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Loving Your Sober Holiday By Bex Weller


I must admit; I felt incredibly anxious about my first alcohol-free holiday. I hadn’t been on a sober holiday in more than twenty years, and for me, holidays had always been an excuse to drink even more than usual.  Champagne with breakfast, coc...

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I must admit; I felt incredibly anxious about my first alcohol-free holiday. I hadn’t been on a sobe...

So, You’re Thinking About Seeing A Counsellor? By The Secret Counsellor


There is no such thing as a neutral therapist – Susie Orbach So, picture the scene; at long last you’ve cut all ties with the wine witch.  It’s been six months now; your skin is clear, your eyes are bright and the drinks aisle at your local...

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Woman Of Substances By Jenny Valentish


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If You Could Have Anything…What Would It Be? An Extract From The Book By Jo De Rosa


The years passed by and he thought about smoking less and less. Rob married Annabel and life calmed down and, dare he say, became ‘normal’. His drinking, however, increased. But this addiction was one which was very socially acceptable, and would pro...

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After two decades of drinking more than I ever set out to, I kicked the booze once and for all in April 2011. In 2012 I set up soberistas.com and now work full time as editor of the site and am a passionate advocate of alcohol-free living. If you would like to get in touch please email me on lucy@soberistas.com - I’d love to hear from you!

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