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Lubbieloo has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Evening everyone another busy day then home and Tesco for baking things as my  daughter is baking for Mcmillan cancer, so hopefully a choc chip muffin later😁 gr... 1 minute ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on Day 114 - Getting through December
of course you can do it, but have a plan! I had some mates round a few weeks ago. They were all drinking and I moved into hostess mode and really enjoy... 2 minutes ago
JL4 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 4 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on 90 days!!!
And there’s absolutely no reason why you won’t keep going! Certainly not a disgusting toxic poison that will take away all that you have gained in these past 90... 5 minutes ago
Candlestickmaker posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Wow, what a nightmare 😥 she is toxic. Onwards and upwards now SW xxCSMxx 6 minutes ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on On holiday
Hi Daisy, I loved mosto when in Spain. Its a grape juice, red or white which they sell quite often in little bottles like mini-wine bottles. Its really... 7 minutes ago
SoberWish has posted the blog Infinite Love on the Internet
I got the medication I needed today. This does not feel like a failure to me anymore.To answer some of the questions I received, no, I will NOT be going to her... 9 minutes ago
Running girl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Babyonyx sending you a huge virtual hug ❤️ You are amazing! 11 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on The Value Of Soberistas, Blogging and Not Being Insane
Fabulous blog PP. That quote is gold and describes this best hidden secret of ours so well x 11 minutes ago
Newlife2 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 12 minutes ago
Phoenix1313 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning, Warriors!And what a beautiful morning it is. The recent rain has turned my garden into a paradise of green lushness and there are baby birds being... 12 minutes ago
Ali_154 has posted the blog Day 114 - Getting through December
I feel very meh at the moment. Everything is a bit of a struggle. I am struggling to get out of bed on time, have eczema, and my skin around my eyes is really p... 13 minutes ago
Carrie_47 has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Dear Hope so very sorry to hear about your mum sending love and hugsxxIve had a busy day today delivering our charity hampers to three clients I'm seeing throug... 14 minutes ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on The first to go
Snowdrop what a fabulous blog.....they won't think you're boring for being the first to leave, they won't be thinking at all......as you say, when people... 14 minutes ago
awesomedays has commented in the forum discussions Afternoon tea at The Brink Dry Bar, Liverpool January 2019
Hiya, any room for one more? I've just spotted this and it sounds brill. xx 14 minutes ago
LuluP posted a comment on The first to go
The reality is probably very different, I bet it you looked in on those laughing people later on tonight it might not look so much fun! Have a wonderful Xmas br... 16 minutes ago
Molls has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
well the UK is not the only one with worsening healthcare. It's so bad here and probably going to get worse. Pre-existing medical conditions are not going to be... 18 minutes ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on Awards night
Panda, what a lovely story and how smart to soak up all the good comments and ignore the wine! You sound like something has really opened up for you! xxxx... 19 minutes ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Lots to share
Hey, firstly can you chat to the mother of these kids? This seems like an unsafe situation. She was lucky that nobody called social services After finding a 2 y... 21 minutes ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I haven't managed to individually acknowledge all the Inspirational accomplishments And struggles I read of daily in this thread, but rest assured that you kee... 22 minutes ago
scruffyterrier has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Busy day today. One daughter left yesterday. The other leaves tomorrow at silly o'clock. Back to an empty nest. I feel sad, but also glad they have lives of the... 22 minutes ago
LuluP posted a comment on The Value Of Soberistas, Blogging and Not Being Insane
I love this too PP. I must admit I've never heard that quote but now I have it really does make perfect sense when it's applied to sobriety. And yes I think I'm... 25 minutes ago
NoWine2018 posted a comment on The first to go
You have come so far this year. You are certainly not boring. Your idea of fun and party has just changed for the better.xx 25 minutes ago
Karenf has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Hope. Am so sorry x 27 minutes ago
Ailsy has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Hiya lovelies,Wow it's a busy wee place tonight!!AFletic your pics are gorgeous!!!! What a fab holiday! Jen you're rocking it lady.... well done 👍👍Phoenix the m... 32 minutes ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
She sounds awful. She clearly has her own issues. She wants you to fail for some reason. Whe else would she berate you for trying and mock you for failing and t... 33 minutes ago
LuluP posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Hi Soberwish, I really can't say anything that hasn't already been said. You could turn it on its head and feel sorry for her, she must be in a very bad place t... 33 minutes ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on 90 days!!!
Ps. Remember you have a charity of your choice to donate to at your 100 days and a lovely certificate is just within reach. You can reward yourself at your 10... 34 minutes ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Sponsors & Podcasts
Soberful podcast by Veronica Valli and Chip Somers 39 minutes ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on 90 days!!!
Plan, plan, plan. Prepare, tthink ahead, decide what you are having to eat and drink. I have bought in Freixenet 0% alcohol sparkling wine. It was recommende... 41 minutes ago
bellina62 has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Very sorry to read of your sad news Hope. xx 43 minutes ago
Breida posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
She is not my idea of a friend, SoberWish! Don’t give up. Welcome back x 44 minutes ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Being accountable for my feelings
That sounds a bit much, as someone else said cant you get someone in from a temp agency to cover for now? I am so sorry that your co worker died suddenly, that... 45 minutes ago
Running girl posted a comment on The Value Of Soberistas, Blogging and Not Being Insane
Ooh PP a lovely little bit of Nietsche on this dark December night! Thank you. That quote brought goosebumps. And a huge smile. I'm hearing that music loud and... 45 minutes ago
Knee has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Alcohol centric TV- there is literally no escape from the pressure to swig gin and neck prosecco this festive season. 🤬🤬🤬 46 minutes ago
Knee has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Dear Hope, so sorry for your loss Knee xx 51 minutes ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on I crashed his car .....
Oh no, no it’s surprising how much damage you can do even when moving slowly. I smashed my car into a car park pillar and totally wrecked the whole side of it,... 51 minutes ago
Lassie_2 posted a comment on Found such generousity of spirit, kindness and support on Soberistas thanks for no lecture
Thanks guys. Had a while today not thinking about him. Better day. How do people do this to people, its just horrific. He was so nice. Just a lovely person. Can... 51 minutes ago
Cherrycheesecake posted a comment on Feeling bloody awesome
Fantastic Sarah, sounds like a brilliant day out! 55 minutes ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on 90 days!!!
90 days Gingersnaps! How brilliant are you? And why would you go and spoil Christmas with a hangover and / or a row and / or a headache and / or a fat loa... 57 minutes ago
Petal posted a comment on Sobriety in a time of contrasts
Oh my dear Twigs, I've just come across your blog. Your words always seem to come at the right time for me. It's very hard when your a compassionate person not... 57 minutes ago
Running girl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Yay for the Dream Team 🌟For Georgie and Littlejo and Nini for overcoming those awful first 10.For Artygirl,Rosalita and Scorpion on their amazing graduations 🌟💫... 58 minutes ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on "Push Back"
Cade.....So strange that you're the first blog I see on here tonight......I came home with a bigfatcraving for a drink.....long day...cold....wet....nearly Ch... 1 hour ago
LizzieO posted a comment on The first to go
The people who say to me "but you can just have one or two can't you" usually say so with some anxiety in their tone. My answer now is usually "of course I can... 1 hour ago
Monkpug posted a comment on Lots to share
Hi Justus, I love the fact that told him how you felt about his comments about marriag. A massive well done because it does need to be said. His words back was... 1 hour ago
Saffy565 posted a comment on The first to go
Good for you. It is annoying when other people say "just have a couple". As if? 1 hour ago
overthewall posted a comment on Sobriety in a time of contrasts
How strange to chance on this. I was thinking about you just an hour ago and wondering how you were doing as I've missed reading your wise words. I like what yo... 1 hour ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Oh and DEFINITELY do not go to her wedding!!! 1 hour ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Oh darling, I am so sorry; this broke my heart. I’m sure others have said this but WOAH does she have issues. She clearly cannot cope with you changing for the... 1 hour ago
Petal posted a comment on The Value Of Soberistas, Blogging and Not Being Insane
Good to read PP. Well I have a couple of passions but being sober is top of the list. I too love to dance, it's mainly in my kitchen with some loud music on. I... 1 hour ago
Karenf has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Evening all, really sorry but I don't check in very often, this and the Doable December thread seem to move really quickly and I feel that I can't catch up enou... 1 hour ago
Petal posted a comment on The first to go
Yes, the laughing crowds in a pub. Sometimes the surface isn't the reality. I wonder how many of those people end up like you and me did . Sounds as though your... 1 hour ago
Suenew posted a comment on Sponsors & Podcasts
So glad you are find information that book helpful. Although did I say I did not find it until well sober. Perhaps I can be helpful to by recommending Smart rec... 1 hour ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on Found such generousity of spirit, kindness and support on Soberistas thanks for no lecture
You’re doing really well. It’s so hard, and I’ve been there, but you really deserve more. x 1 hour ago
Stella_27 posted a comment on The Value Of Soberistas, Blogging and Not Being Insane
This is beautiful! S x 1 hour ago
EarlGrey76 has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
My deepest condolences Hope xx 1 hour ago
Mamie has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Hi all......well pals..... nearly there..... another few days then the shit will be over and we can get back to normal!😜 Hope.... how has your day been? I h... 1 hour ago
Stella_27 posted a comment on The first to go
I second everything you said! And, I bet you are the first up in the morning, looking and feeling as fresh as a daisy! S x 1 hour ago
Phoenix1313 has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Morning everyone!its your Day 10 here in Australia, JenCat!!! 1 hour ago
Suenew posted a comment on The first to go
Yes this was me too. One never enough by the end. Have a great time you deserve it x 1 hour ago
Lubbieloo has commented in the forum discussions Doable and Determined December!
Evening everyone another busy day then home and Tesco for baking things as my  daughter is baking for Mcmillan cancer, so hopefully a choc chip muffin later😁 gr... 1 minute ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on Day 114 - Getting through December
of course you can do it, but have a plan! I had some mates round a few weeks ago. They were all drinking and I moved into hostess mode and really enjoy... 2 minutes ago
JL4 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 4 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on 90 days!!!
And there’s absolutely no reason why you won’t keep going! Certainly not a disgusting toxic poison that will take away all that you have gained in these past 90... 5 minutes ago
Candlestickmaker posted a comment on You Have Failed So Many Times
Wow, what a nightmare 😥 she is toxic. Onwards and upwards now SW xxCSMxx 6 minutes ago
sarah_125 posted a comment on On holiday
Hi Daisy, I loved mosto when in Spain. Its a grape juice, red or white which they sell quite often in little bottles like mini-wine bottles. Its really... 7 minutes ago
SoberWish has posted the blog Infinite Love on the Internet
I got the medication I needed today. This does not feel like a failure to me anymore.To answer some of the questions I received, no, I will NOT be going to her... 9 minutes ago
Running girl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Babyonyx sending you a huge virtual hug ❤️ You are amazing! 11 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on The Value Of Soberistas, Blogging and Not Being Insane
Fabulous blog PP. That quote is gold and describes this best hidden secret of ours so well x 11 minutes ago
Newlife2 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 12 minutes ago



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