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Ann_18 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Great to see all of us Sober Superstars on the board!! Everyone is making great progress. The Septuplets with the first 10 under their belts. KOKO! On our day,... 6 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 224 today... Some ponderings.
Thanks for the update, been thinking about you. It's a shit time but it sounds like you're doing everything really well (of course you would!), hope it keeps go... 8 minutes ago
Julibee has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 11 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on NINE MONTHS
You must have written more than 100 blogs?! Congratulations on nine months and thank you for so faithfully posting week after week, you've been a huge part in... 14 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Sobriety is serious business
That's a grief Justus, thank you for sharing these thoughts with us - we concentrate on what we gain from living AF but don't take the real nature of the threat... 19 minutes ago
Sparkles has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to everyone on The Sober Superstars Team 🌠!  Congratulations to our Monthly Milestone Achievers 😗!     ❤ Please remember to post regularly  and... 21 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Another day free
Whoo! Very strong in your second month, bossing it :D. The thought of how great I'll feel the morning after not drinking is one of the things that I look forwar... 24 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on POWER
Yes! love it! 26 minutes ago
zephyr has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Just popping in for a moment before bed. A challenging afternoon, waves of sadness and grief. Some of it is down to the time of year; tomorrow is the anniversar... 33 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Day 3 Evening
The first ten days are very hard so go easy on yourself. It might be easier to cope with the OH if you just go to another room and do your own thing. Take a b... 55 minutes ago
bellina62 has commented in the forum discussions Originality for October
Good evening all,Just wanted to say that 900 is one massive figure Emma - congratulations!Karen - what a beautiful necklace you choseRBS - glad the interview we... 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on My imperfect sober life....
Sending you love amd best wishes for some true rest and restoration. You're amazing xx 1 hour ago
BreathRun has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick AF check in. Vespa, enjoy your time away. That location looks gorgeous.Sparkles, you're juggling many competing demands. I hope you're able to give full c... 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Husband moving out, why am I not flipping out
I can feel your relief. Sometimes ending a relationship is the best thing for everyone, especially the children who had to live in a bad atmosphere without bein... 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on What came first.....
Wishing you well for the counselling. Really hope you get what you need from it. It's great that you can do the therapy while AF, that will make so much differ... 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 3 Evening
You sound very strong, doing brilliantly well. It's tough when one partner drinks more than the other. I bet he'll thank you for saving him from a second bottle... 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on “And I threw us into the flames...”
Sending you hugs. It's really brave to do the work that you're doing and acknowledge how you're feeling. You're brilliant Xxx 1 hour ago
Vespagirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Halfway there. 2 hours ago
kady has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick check in to saySarnia, my friend I don't know how i missed you on your day 60. Congratulations. We've both been chasing this for a long time now. Respect... 2 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on “And I threw us into the flames...”
Big hugs Poppy. You’re doing such hard work right now but it is an investment in your future. I think letting go of the letters was for the best because they’d... 2 hours ago
Sparkles has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
JJ45, posting right here is right where you need to be.  Sometimes some istas have formed a group of their own, but there are no threads devoted to just the tea... 3 hours ago
Pooh49 posted a comment on Day 3 Evening
I remember being emotional! Just last week. Thankfully my moods are a bit improved. Stay with to. I signed up for the course but have been so busy I didn’t rea... 3 hours ago
MegDav posted a comment on Day 143 Dealing
Sorry about your dog Katie, but I’m glad that you’re able to pick him up! Isn’t it amazing all the things that used to push you to drink now just make you stron... 3 hours ago
Pooh49 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
QACI, Day 4 AF. WW was in my head on the way home, but I did some chores then settled down for dinner, followed by uke playing time. Good night all. 3 hours ago
Monajoan posted a comment on 8 myths for 8 months
Awesome job! 8months!🎉👏💕 3 hours ago
Monajoan posted a comment on Healing...
So glad you're still with us. 💕 3 hours ago
MegDav posted a comment on NINE MONTHS
Congratulations on nine months sober! It’s like you are starting your life all over again, but this time remembering it 3 hours ago
Monajoan posted a comment on NINE MONTHS
Congratulations! Still look for you here when I am time short. 💕 3 hours ago
kingfisher_1 has commented in the forum discussions Sydney meetup: 26 October
I will try my absolute best to get to you. I would love to meet you all. I hope you have a brilliant meet up xxx 3 hours ago
MegDav posted a comment on Sobriety is serious business
So sorry to hear about your friend, that is absolutely heartbreaking. And I love the warning that you have been there, because honestly when I am tempted to dri... 3 hours ago
MegDav posted a comment on POWER
Wow you are on a roll!! I can’t believe that we used to think drinking was the way to have fun! And to discover that you can have more fun by changing your min... 3 hours ago
Vespagirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Greetings from Lubec! We're surrounded by water and here's the restaurant we're going to shortly, one of two still open (intensely seasonal town), perched right... 4 hours ago
MegDav posted a comment on Day 203. Hen weekends.
Oh that first one sounds exhausting. What a difference being alcohol free can make! So glad you decided to get sober💕💓 4 hours ago
Petal posted a comment on NINE MONTHS
Congratulations , 9 months is just fantastic. I love it when I see your name pop up. Have a good meet up and say a special hello to W. Wagtail who I think is jo... 4 hours ago
MegDav posted a comment on “And I threw us into the flames...”
I hope this step Will move you a little bit closer to healing. It is so hard to move on from a relationship, and you are doing so well and so many things. Keep... 4 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Husband moving out, why am I not flipping out
You may want to have his name removed from the lease before you change the locks, if you think he might raise an issue about it. If it truly is a loveless marr... 4 hours ago
jj45 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi all, going into the evening here. It helps not having vino in the house. Day 4 , 5 ish is hard for me sometimes. Thinking of you all 4 hours ago
Tutankamon has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 4 hours ago
Fernandosclams posted a comment on I thought my kids didn't know
Great blog Margaret....I agree that out children learn from what they see us do or not do and less from what we say. At the very least we are showing them there... 4 hours ago
Earyriser posted a comment on NINE MONTHS
Well done from across the world. I've definitely done everything drunk and we are alike. Except that I haven't done 9 months sober or do I know a very long time... 4 hours ago
KatieA has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 4 hours ago
Aesirpup has commented in the forum discussions Originality for October
QACI, shattered today Parent teacher meetings all afternoon followed by two hours dog training. Safe in bed, still AF hope everyone is doing well. XApup 4 hours ago
AFsprings has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Evening all,Congratulations on 15 fabulous months CC and AFletic. Awesome achievement. 🎊💐🎉MCL, you’ve sounded so unhappy with your work situation for a long tim... 4 hours ago
Theonebigthing posted a comment on Made it to Day 192 with your help
High five girl xx wooP! X 4 hours ago
Theonebigthing posted a comment on If every day was monday
The road to madness is doing what we always did and expecting to get s diffrrent outcome (Einstein - I think) . so what you say makes perfect sense AND yes cook... 4 hours ago
HB Pencil posted a comment on POWER
💪 You’re fabulous all right! 4 hours ago
peace has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Feeling uplifted and encouraged about the weekend because after I told them my riding partners back out several have come forward to figure things out so I don’... 4 hours ago
Theonebigthing posted a comment on Day 3 Evening
Hi Aquah! This rang bells for me - I have found it very odd watching my partner drink his two glasses of red wine with supper at the weekend. It’s not that I wa... 4 hours ago
Phillybear has commented in the forum discussions Originality for October
Demeter congratulations for your daughter,, you should be so proud of her ,, and you too love ,, your doing a great job 💪🏼💪🏼 I remember that pain in the ass of... 4 hours ago
Jackie’s Henry posted a comment on “And I threw us into the flames...”
Straight from the heart as always, I hope you find a little more peace, and that more stitches will dissolve for you.... 4 hours ago
Theonebigthing posted a comment on Another day free
Go Cec! ( I will have to stop thinking I am just a few days behind you - as I will be forever and it’s not very exciting for me to keep observing that 😅🙄😅 ) Tot... 5 hours ago
madcatlady has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Well 12 hour day including 5 hours.driving confirmed.my.decision,I was.in tears on way home.Boss belittled me phrasing my concerns as "he said she said" in fro... 5 hours ago
Bottlelove has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 hours ago
Jackie’s Henry posted a comment on Day 3 Evening
Good for you in advising him, and good for him in listening. I don’t think I would manage sobriety if my OH drank at home, it must be difficult...Hope you get y... 5 hours ago
NewandWild has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Qaci @healingone - thanks for that pic/quote, I love it and was searching for something like that the other day. I've found sobriety is a continuous process of... 5 hours ago
BrightLife has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Oh wow, I’m a Panda!! I’m so new to all of this, I’m still getting my head around it! I feel so proud and happy. Thank you so much for my call out, Emma 😊😊😊 I a... 5 hours ago
Theonebigthing posted a comment on I thought my kids didn't know
Thanks for sharing Margaret. I think I have this yet to come... my daughter is 17 and really really doesn’t like alcohol - think she may get that from her Dad (... 5 hours ago
Strawbs posted a comment on Sitting on the fence
To achieve that mind shift, you also have to change the way you look at alcohol. What is behind the 1% that makes you think that drinking again would be a good... 5 hours ago
PLR-x has posted the blog “And I threw us into the flames...”
”Well it felt something died ‘cause I knew that that was the last time, the last time...”💌🔥Last night after I outed myself on Facebook and shared it with you al... 5 hours ago
Ann_18 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Great to see all of us Sober Superstars on the board!! Everyone is making great progress. The Septuplets with the first 10 under their belts. KOKO! On our day,... 6 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 224 today... Some ponderings.
Thanks for the update, been thinking about you. It's a shit time but it sounds like you're doing everything really well (of course you would!), hope it keeps go... 8 minutes ago
Julibee has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 11 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on NINE MONTHS
You must have written more than 100 blogs?! Congratulations on nine months and thank you for so faithfully posting week after week, you've been a huge part in... 14 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Sobriety is serious business
That's a grief Justus, thank you for sharing these thoughts with us - we concentrate on what we gain from living AF but don't take the real nature of the threat... 19 minutes ago
Sparkles has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to everyone on The Sober Superstars Team 🌠!  Congratulations to our Monthly Milestone Achievers 😗!     ❤ Please remember to post regularly  and... 21 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Another day free
Whoo! Very strong in your second month, bossing it :D. The thought of how great I'll feel the morning after not drinking is one of the things that I look forwar... 24 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on POWER
Yes! love it! 26 minutes ago
zephyr has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Just popping in for a moment before bed. A challenging afternoon, waves of sadness and grief. Some of it is down to the time of year; tomorrow is the anniversar... 33 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Day 3 Evening
The first ten days are very hard so go easy on yourself. It might be easier to cope with the OH if you just go to another room and do your own thing. Take a b... 55 minutes ago



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