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Corncrake posted a comment on Thank you
Jane, I'm trying to find the words to help you. I think probably knowing that someone out there really feels for me, even though I cannot touch them , would pen... 2 minutes ago
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BlueAngel posted a comment on AF cocktails: what would you choose?
Are bitters alcoholic? Is it such a small among that it doesn't count? 8 minutes ago
Lyntins has commented in the forum discussions AF sparkling options
I had on a night away an Echo Falls sparkling AF infusion. Was delicious, it was from Sainsburys. Husband couldn't tell it was AF fizz. 9 minutes ago
Soberwolf posted a comment on 6 Months Today Alcohol Free
Very inspiring story Jane, how much you have achieved in 6 months! Well done. 10 minutes ago
Patti posted a comment on The story of me.....
Got cut off...Sorry kinda windy I am...I was going to say that no matter what the cost, I think I would've paid anything to stay sober.Thankyou Laura for always... 13 minutes ago
Binks posted a comment on 200 REASONS MY LIFE IS BETTER WITHOUT ALCOHOL
That's the life I want too. Congratulations. I'm 9 days sober after what I pray was my final pitiful humiliation!! 15 minutes ago
Chris_219 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Hi all.  Packing for my 'trip.'  First time flying AF - drinking at the airport and on the plane was so part of the holiday but confident I will be OK.So sorry... 18 minutes ago
Patti posted a comment on The story of me.....
Hi Laura..... Great questions dear friend! Let's see.....Would I have gotten help if it wasn't mandatory??? I really don't think so. I probably wouldn't be her... 20 minutes ago
steveo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hiya folks & new peeps,Just love the orchids Nana, so many different varieties, flower shape and colour, I would love to have seen them.And the mantis on yo... 23 minutes ago
Dana_13 has commented in the forum discussions February 2017 - The Month of Change!!
I'm with you, Snicky. Sometimes, I can moderate and sometimes, I can't! However, my husband doesn't like it all when I can't moderate. So, he is supportive of m... 24 minutes ago
Killer-heels posted a comment on I'm done drinking...
Love this just downloaded now xx amazing xx 25 minutes ago
deni posted a comment on Clarity x100
I'm 54 in March and sometimes I feel like "why bother now"? But after reading these blogs I know that I want the next 30 years to be clear for me too! I'm 6 mos... 27 minutes ago
TimeandFeeling has posted in the forum discussions AF sparkling options
Im exploring AF bubbles and wondered if there are any suggestions. I've tried the usual Sloer and sparkling apple. Any other suggestions to have as a celebratio... 29 minutes ago
Vicky_9 posted a comment on The story of me.....
As a newbie on Day1 this is exactly what I needed to hear.Thanks 31 minutes ago
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charlie_17 posted a comment on AF cocktails: what would you choose?
ooooooooooooo Blueangel.. i would love the Rainbow Punch mocktail, but if you dont like the taste you could then punch the barmans lights out ;-) XXX 33 minutes ago
TimeandFeeling posted a comment on AF cocktails: what would you choose?
Ooh thanks for this List. I like the sound of the virgin Mojito, St Kitts, and sparkling option although perhaps a bit similar in content to St Kitts. I'm testi... 39 minutes ago
Vicky_9 posted a comment on AF cocktails: what would you choose?
I would choose the 'Sparkling pear'. 40 minutes ago
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Sammy_12 posted a comment on Gutted
I was dreading my birthday and I'm so used to celebrating with friends I knew I would drink a couple of days before but not to the extent that I did the only go... 44 minutes ago
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BlueAngel has posted the blog AF cocktails: what would you choose?
FINALLY got a decent list of AF cocktails for my 40th birthday party, from the bar I'm having the party in. I did have to slightly lose my sh*t with them at the... 49 minutes ago
expatmum has posted the blog Who knows where the time goes?
I’ve posted previously about panic attacks since getting sober in claustrophobic situations.  It’s happened in concert halls and theatres.  I usually take preve... 53 minutes ago
Sunrise posted a comment on 6 Months Today Alcohol Free
Huge Congratulations Jane! You are totally right about the 100% commitment And that this site is amazing. All the best for the surgery x 54 minutes ago
Patti posted a comment on The story of me.....
Oh Gosh Charlie I do too!! I would love nothing more than to meet you.... maybe sometime soon. Settling into my job & town. Hey, and they gave me a full-ti... 54 minutes ago
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Huge congratulations Kathy! Wonderful achievement. I really benefitted from reading your post today as I'm almost 7 months sober (can't quite believe this is me... 56 minutes ago
Killer-heels posted a comment on Not feeling good today
Hi all thanks, love reading your comments to,, yes felt so much better this morning and yes I no hangover are the worst with small kids it's like your punishing... 59 minutes ago
Sunrise posted a comment on Gutted
Happy Birthday Sammy! It is a shame we are so conditioned in society to celebrate everything with alcohol. Do not let the relapse be a complete waste of everyth... 1 hour ago
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Mellyann posted a comment on Day 1
My dad gave me great advice that I'll share..do one thing different every day :-)Thinking of you with tons of support! 1 hour ago
Eliza_95 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Delighted you have sorted out the Majorca break Therese . We had friends who used to stay there years ago - their surname is Drinkwater ,,the husband a dentist... 1 hour ago
fly-away posted a comment on Ashamed again!
Hello and welcome , you have come to a great place � _x 1 hour ago
Sunrise posted a comment on Day 1
Hi Meg hope you are feeling slightly better now since your last blog and have been to the GP. Definitely use this site as much as you need to we are all here to... 1 hour ago
Lacerta has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Sorry if my post seemed short tired after a long day at work 1 hour ago
Lacerta has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Hi I have booked into Hockley Heath Premier Inn for Thursday 4th. It's a couple of hours drive for me so will get up early to come and join you all hopefully f... 1 hour ago
Dec192015 posted a comment on Thank you
Jane so glad you've booked an appointment with the GP - their perspective will hopefully clarify for you that your health comes first and foremost and help you... 1 hour ago
Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I hope everyone is having a beautiful day/night. Stevo, yes yall (uk peeps) are 6 hrs ahead of me and Miz is 18 hrs ahead of me. California is 3 hrs behind me,... 1 hour ago
Sunrise posted a comment on Ashamed again!
Hi Lessismore and Welcome!If you want to stop drinking and change your life for the better this is a great place to start. Alcohol Explained, Sober Revolution,... 1 hour ago
charlie_17 posted a comment on The story of me.....
Lovely blog Patti, your story is a mirror of mine in places, particularly the random breath testing at work which I must admit I hated and felt humiliated every... 1 hour ago
Newleaf_2 posted a comment on Delaying Gratification
Hello MT. this is really interesting. I have been thinking about your point on the time between seeing the problem and finding the solution. Perhaps my issues a... 1 hour ago
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Ah Patti..I just love you and love your story...thank you for sharing my lovely friend x 1 hour ago
Sheer posted a comment on The story of me.....
Patti, lovely to hear how you came to appreciate and love the benefits of sobriety. Also not just for sharing this but for being such a wonderful reassuring pre... 1 hour ago
Cade posted a comment on Checking In...
Super Awesome RBS. Damn knee and back. I have that too plus the shoulder, haha. Way to go, luv this blog. Keep Living Free and thanks for sharing, Stephen 1 hour ago
Meg_87 posted a comment on The story of me.....
Thank you PattiThis post is just what I needed today. x 1 hour ago
Sunrise posted a comment on The story of me.....
Thanks Patti, this is a very inspirational blog, I will never tire hearing from Istas further along who let us know it is not just possible to live AF but also... 1 hour ago
Laura posted a comment on The story of me.....
Hello Sober Big Sister. Love the blog. I have some questions about your 'journey'Do you think you'd have given up drinking if you hadn't had to do the work outp... 1 hour ago
therese has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Jolly well done Cynthi and Oneday - isn't it miraculous how the days become weeks and then months become years!!So delighted (inbetween ladylike sneezes from me... 1 hour ago
Sunrise posted a comment on Really messed up
If you've done a year before you can do this Bernie. It is hard but worth it as you know. Get stuck into Acohol Explained but also blog regularly. Some Istas bl... 1 hour ago
Scottish lass posted a comment on The story of me.....
Thanks, Patti, a great inspirational story xx 1 hour ago
Cade posted a comment on The story of me.....
Awesome Patti, thans for sharing your story.. 1 hour ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on Thank you
Hi Jane, a member of another support group has sent me this link (it's a pdf file) which is an action plan for when things start going wrong for us. You might... 1 hour ago
ratherbeswimming has posted the blog Checking In...
Day 84...woo hoo!! Quick update on being AF from my perspective. For me it's more than not drinking alcohol. The past couple of weeks it has become about findi... 2 hours ago
Bernie1261 posted a comment on Really messed up
Thanks to all of you who replied with such kindness and sound advice. My longest period of AF was a year and in recent months 3 weeks. I've reached a place wher... 2 hours ago
Miz posted a comment on Day 1
I have learnt I need to be "active in sobriety". It is a term that I had heard but the true meaning of it has really struck home this year. Sometimes it feels t... 2 hours ago
Patti posted a comment on The story of me.....
Sorry Stormy I wasn't clear....Sober sleep is wonderful and I meant that I couldn't be around alcohol for a long time! Lol.... 2 hours ago
Meg_87 posted a comment on Day 1
ElleYou are exactly right; I do convince myself that 'this time will be different' to justify ripping the cork out of that bottle of Cava.  I have not yet fully... 2 hours ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on Thank you
I'm sorry I missed your earlier blog Jane but well done on taking steps to look after yourself when you are feeling so rotten. We are all here to help as much a... 2 hours ago
Corncrake posted a comment on Thank you
Jane, I'm trying to find the words to help you. I think probably knowing that someone out there really feels for me, even though I cannot touch them , would pen... 2 minutes ago
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BlueAngel posted a comment on AF cocktails: what would you choose?
Are bitters alcoholic? Is it such a small among that it doesn't count? 8 minutes ago
Lyntins has commented in the forum discussions AF sparkling options
I had on a night away an Echo Falls sparkling AF infusion. Was delicious, it was from Sainsburys. Husband couldn't tell it was AF fizz. 9 minutes ago
Soberwolf posted a comment on 6 Months Today Alcohol Free
Very inspiring story Jane, how much you have achieved in 6 months! Well done. 10 minutes ago
Patti posted a comment on The story of me.....
Got cut off...Sorry kinda windy I am...I was going to say that no matter what the cost, I think I would've paid anything to stay sober.Thankyou Laura for always... 13 minutes ago
Binks posted a comment on 200 REASONS MY LIFE IS BETTER WITHOUT ALCOHOL
That's the life I want too. Congratulations. I'm 9 days sober after what I pray was my final pitiful humiliation!! 15 minutes ago
Chris_219 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Hi all.  Packing for my 'trip.'  First time flying AF - drinking at the airport and on the plane was so part of the holiday but confident I will be OK.So sorry... 18 minutes ago
Patti posted a comment on The story of me.....
Hi Laura..... Great questions dear friend! Let's see.....Would I have gotten help if it wasn't mandatory??? I really don't think so. I probably wouldn't be her... 20 minutes ago
steveo has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hiya folks & new peeps,Just love the orchids Nana, so many different varieties, flower shape and colour, I would love to have seen them.And the mantis on yo... 23 minutes ago



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