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Strawbs has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Just popping in on super Soberlicious day - a huge Wellington done to my fellow teamsters! 22 minutes ago
Mellingtonboot posted a comment on The love triangle
This is why I sew - to have something to keep my hands busy and distract me while people are trying to get me to bash them over the head, either verbally or wit... 28 minutes ago
Jayne_17 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to everyone on the boards today 👏 Still Af and loving it 😊 33 minutes ago
Mellingtonboot posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
"Writing it out I can see how manipulative he is." Well done, you've done the right thing. It will hurt for a bit, but it will hurt more if you let him back i... 44 minutes ago
Strawbs has commented in the forum discussions Christmas Advent - The Gift an AF life!
Late check in on super Soberlicious day. Really ker-nackered but in a good way. Just decorated the lounge and dining room in about half the time I'd thought i... 45 minutes ago
Tates has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I have just had such a lovely,long read back - pages, and I had only missed a day - also each page took forever to load. Anyway, as I was reading, I felt so man... 54 minutes ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
I think your last blog's title was 'circles?' and that is exactly what some relationships end up being like unfortunately. It sounds like this relationship co... 1 hour ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Splitting
I love being sober.  Now I can get on with the business of living.  Well said Mellington. Amazing the coping strategies we employ to protect us - it sounds l... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on The love triangle
I read others' advice after posting mine. Probably right to just focus on you. We still have our thread on OHs who drink in the family section if you want furt... 1 hour ago
Samira posted a comment on 52 days
Congratulations on 52 days!!! Thanks for writing! It’s good to hear the positives after 52 days.. I’m embarking on Day 12.I too find the AF crusade overwhelming... 1 hour ago
mutt196 posted a comment on 52 days
Puffin leggings !!! yes please..... well done you on 52 days. You are rocking this sobriety :) x 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Advice Needed
I think you're doing the right thing. Not easy. Xxxx 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
This is going to sound extreme but would you block him from your phone? Just for a few weeks while you get yourself back? From the text exchange, it sounds like... 1 hour ago
bellina62 has commented in the forum discussions Christmas Advent - The Gift an AF life!
Pretty winter day here - just came back from a good long walk - has me all invigorated. It took so long to get cold this year, the gardens still have a fair amo... 1 hour ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Down
Hey Junio. Like you, and probably many others, I have experienced the adoring friend disappear in a puff of smoke, to either materialise at a later date like n... 1 hour ago
Mylove posted a comment on Down
It takes a long time to really get to know someone doesn’t it?I’m sure things will improve in time. In the meantime, put your feelers out and find some groups i... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on The love triangle
Have you talked to him? What are his thoughts? Can you work as partners in any of this? Would he agree to hang with his mom for a day, maybe, take her & th... 1 hour ago
Eliza_95 posted a comment on IM NOT A POTATO - FIVE YEARS IN
You are half the size and more than twice the person I first met in Hebden Bridge 2016 ! A great wonderful onion , Congratulations ! 1 hour ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Advice Needed
HUgs. It does not sound as if your boyfriend is serious about his sobriety. If he does not genuinely want to be sober for himself it does not sound like things... 1 hour ago
funch has commented in the forum discussions OK so we don't drink, now what?
Faby that's wonderful about your son. Great work him, and to you for supporting him. Jazz I hope your OH's brother can turn things around.BTW Faby your autocor... 1 hour ago
Mylove posted a comment on Advice Needed
I think I would have to have a proper sit down, serious talk with him.He sounds like he’s brushing off your questions and you’re letting him walk away without t... 1 hour ago
sharna has commented in the forum discussions December Nature watch
Oh Petal. You really opened your heart . Thank you for sharing your story xx and look where you are now ! You ARE worth something and as Ravenswick said ' party... 1 hour ago
mutt196 posted a comment on A different kind of cycle
Hi Ali. I work in domestic abuse and support people that are in harmful relationships. From what you are saying I would strongly recommend you contact either... 1 hour ago
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Hello tribe! 👋Happy Soberlicious day 🌸💖So nice to see everyone up there on the boards including our monthers, so many of you 😍LMB77 well done on 300 days alcoho... 1 hour ago
Eliza_95 has commented in the forum discussions Young at Heart
Oh Molls what a predicament you are in , sending prayers and hopes that all will be well and you are safe . Good luck with the eyelashes Lacerta ! I haven’t wor... 1 hour ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
It seems like you felt that you need his permission to end it some how? That you wanted him to agree and be OK with it?The only reason you need to end it is tha... 1 hour ago
Bluebird444 posted a comment on Advice Needed
It sounds like you know what you need to do. It’s not easy but sometimes we know the answer but do not want to suffer the consequences. When I was thinking of... 1 hour ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Tip for the subconscious
Amber I so want to know what it feels like too. lets just keep going and we are bound to get there eventually :)...... Also. Funny but one of my passwords i... 2 hours ago
Mylove posted a comment on 52 days
Hi BPB,So glad you’re feeling better about yourself.Keep doing whatever works for you. We’re all different aren’t we? X 2 hours ago
Lubbieloo has commented in the forum discussions Christmas Advent - The Gift an AF life!
Evening allBusy day today with work etc. Hubby and sil had a webex meeting with Social Work about my mil's care package. This toing and froing has been going on... 2 hours ago
mutt196 posted a comment on TWO YEARS FOR ME TODAY
I love that you are thanking your past self for the brave and bold decision she made 2 years back. Two years sober indeed. so happy for you :) x 2 hours ago
MyTurnnow has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I shall only choose AF drinks today. I had an interesting thing happen last night (already shared this on WA group so pardon any redundancy) last night, after I... 2 hours ago
Ravenswick has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Dawn, love Ben, he looks like the sort of dog who would take you on LOONG walks and tire you out to help you sleep well😎We have vizslas who are rain-phobic and... 2 hours ago
Rain1 has commented in the forum discussions December Nature watch
Our lovely tree was taken down today. I felt really sad but you can see the area of disease is really large (the big dark patch in the middle). You could put yo... 2 hours ago
Rain1 has commented in the forum discussions December Nature watch
Petal, thank you so much for sharing your story. It was so moving. How wonderful to read about you emerging into your AF life with precious relationships and a... 2 hours ago
Mylove posted a comment on Splitting
Brilliantly put Mellington.I love that ‘chinks of realisation glinting at you, waiting for you to notice’. I get that feeling too.I think you are very brave to... 2 hours ago
NYgirl123 posted a comment on The love triangle
Hello paddling! This is tough! Just take care of you. Drinking will never make anything better or make you feel better. Get your nails done, go for a hike, or e... 2 hours ago
Daisy_4 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
64/100Steak night at home tonight - always tricky but am firmly resolved - hot choccie coming up! 2 hours ago
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QACIShout out to one of our more prolific members: LeChatNoir. 😊Happy Fursday. I saw this poster which was hanging in my daughter's house in Houston, Texas, US,... 2 hours ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Over 5 Months of Freedom!
Ahhh. So proud of your strength. You stood your ground when the odds were stacked against you and made the best decision in that moment for your beautiful futu... 2 hours ago
Freckles13 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
The big 40 tomorrow - couldn’t have done it without the support especially from my Sober squaddies x 2 hours ago
madcatlady posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
I'm so glad.you ended it,he sounds like a classic manipulator ....put you first 2 hours ago
Dóchas has commented in the forum discussions Christmas Advent - The Gift an AF life!
Hi all. Sorry have been busy and had a bit of a rubbish week so far but just waving that I'm in and Four thank you for hosting. Staying alive thank you for last... 3 hours ago
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Mylove posted a comment on old memories
Yes its really common.when you had these difficult feelings at the time, you numbed them away with booze and that way, you escaped dealing with and working thro... 3 hours ago
SoberMimi has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
oh, I think my day 1 was registered as Dec 4th way back when. That’s great, now I can celebrate for 2 days!! 🤩🤩🤩 3 hours ago
Daisy_4 posted a comment on Splitting
Sadly I too can relate. Glad you are being and able to be so positive - cyber hugs xx 3 hours ago
Mylove posted a comment on Anxiety
I love Calm too x 3 hours ago
Lexx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
QACI keeping on, keeping on here. 3 hours ago
Mylove posted a comment on The love triangle
Stay in the the present Paddling.You know you are doing the right thing, don’t let your OH tempt you with his drinking, it won’t make you feel any better if you... 3 hours ago
mutt196 posted a comment on IM NOT A POTATO - FIVE YEARS IN
This has made my little brain pop. And my heart jump for joy. I am so excited about these gifts you talk of that come by living day after day after day without... 3 hours ago
SoberMimi has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi Sean. I guess I forgot to Qaci after our last Namaste Strong Day. I’m still hear and still AF! In fact to day is my 2 year Soberversary. I can’t believe it’... 3 hours ago
AlaskaChick has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Okay just figured it out... 3 hours ago
AlaskaChick has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
QACI--this week has been harder than the first, but I think the Corona isolation is working in my favor, so grateful for that. Always have an excuse not to go... 3 hours ago
Daisy4leafclover posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
Well done you! I'd maybe delete his number so you're not tempted to text him xx 3 hours ago
Strawbs has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Just popping in on super Soberlicious day - a huge Wellington done to my fellow teamsters! 22 minutes ago
Mellingtonboot posted a comment on The love triangle
This is why I sew - to have something to keep my hands busy and distract me while people are trying to get me to bash them over the head, either verbally or wit... 28 minutes ago
Jayne_17 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to everyone on the boards today 👏 Still Af and loving it 😊 33 minutes ago
Mellingtonboot posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
"Writing it out I can see how manipulative he is." Well done, you've done the right thing. It will hurt for a bit, but it will hurt more if you let him back i... 44 minutes ago
Strawbs has commented in the forum discussions Christmas Advent - The Gift an AF life!
Late check in on super Soberlicious day. Really ker-nackered but in a good way. Just decorated the lounge and dining room in about half the time I'd thought i... 45 minutes ago
Tates has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I have just had such a lovely,long read back - pages, and I had only missed a day - also each page took forever to load. Anyway, as I was reading, I felt so man... 54 minutes ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Thank you - it's done
I think your last blog's title was 'circles?' and that is exactly what some relationships end up being like unfortunately. It sounds like this relationship co... 1 hour ago
mutt196 posted a comment on Splitting
I love being sober.  Now I can get on with the business of living.  Well said Mellington. Amazing the coping strategies we employ to protect us - it sounds l... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on The love triangle
I read others' advice after posting mine. Probably right to just focus on you. We still have our thread on OHs who drink in the family section if you want furt... 1 hour ago
Samira posted a comment on 52 days
Congratulations on 52 days!!! Thanks for writing! It’s good to hear the positives after 52 days.. I’m embarking on Day 12.I too find the AF crusade overwhelming... 1 hour ago



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