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Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Super Congrats Rose 72 on 100 Days..You're a Rock Star so Keep Rockin It..Cade 5 minutes ago
Katie-Esther posted a comment on What happened to me last night?
P.S. And KUDOS for making it through!! 7 minutes ago
Katie-Esther posted a comment on What happened to me last night?
I say go to your nearest Catholic church and get a supply of holy water. Flick it at her if she comes back and tell her to go away already. Ask your guardian an... 7 minutes ago
Marirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Checking in day 87/100.Congrats. to all on Steveo’s list! xxx marirl 12 minutes ago
Elle_1972 has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
I think it should be fine, SL, but I don't want to go back to day 1 on a technicality either! I don't think it'll lead to any cravings, in fact, I am absolutely... 14 minutes ago
Scottish lass has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
That wouldn’t bother me, Elle, I would eat it. I love tiramisu, eat it often, it doesn’t make me crave alcohol or make me tipsy. Depends on your own mindset. Sa... 16 minutes ago
Katie38 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 17 minutes ago
Molly_3 posted a comment on What happened to me last night?
Brilliant response from BlueAngel. Dont worry about what others are doing, you can only control yourself. You’re doing great and the first several weeks are the... 19 minutes ago
Elle_1972 has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Damn, I need guidance. I'm on the train home, and before embarking, I thought I'd buy myself a treat. So I bought some nice chocolate. I was about to open them... 20 minutes ago
RunningRachel40 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 23 minutes ago
Katie-Esther posted a comment on Setting myself some goals
Bh, I don't know if it's kosher, but here's what's worked for me: (big caveat, though, I'm still a beginniner)I couldn't face never having alcohol again. It see... 25 minutes ago
Escoffier posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Thank you Nana. Removing the ‘you should’ people from my life has been a process but worth it. 28 minutes ago
Demeter has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning all,Another thing to be grateful for is calling to the neighbours to collect my daughter in the evenings when she's out with friends. Don't have to stan... 32 minutes ago
Ruthy83 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi everyone, I hope you're all well. I've just blogged to explain why I've been away for ages and what's going on. I wanted to pop on here and say 'hi' and, in... 38 minutes ago
Susie57 posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Superb Nana. X 40 minutes ago
Ruthy83 has posted the blog I went public
Hi everyone, I haven't blogged for a while. I had a couple of weeks without an internet connection and lost touch with this site, towards the end of that I had... 43 minutes ago
Katie-Esther posted a comment on Stella
Congrats on passing that test, Nasch! You must feel so glad about that today. 46 minutes ago
BlueAngel posted a comment on What happened to me last night?
This is AWESOME!! You did it!! And you will do it again. And it will get easier, I promise. I used to get worried reading stories of relapse...is it inevitable... 48 minutes ago
Bubble_11 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Quick Check. Back later. 😉90/100. 1 hour ago
MAZ posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Love it 😗xx 1 hour ago
Chanti posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Loud & clear.My first lesson with my CBT lady was to replace the word "worry" with "concern.The second was to remove "should" and replace with "could". Simp... 1 hour ago
Luto posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Love this nanna, wishing you a wonderful weekend 🌸🌸 1 hour ago
Molly_3 posted a comment on WIFM
It definitely takes a while to figure out what you actually like doing but it will come. I agree with the others who say to think back on what you enjoyed as a... 1 hour ago
Butterfly posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Brilliant. Xxx 1 hour ago
Flow posted a comment on The Negativity Vortex
Hi 3CW. I can totally identify with your blog here. Totally. Been thinking much the same, of late. I went to an AA meeting yesterday and shared just a snippet o... 1 hour ago
peace has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Good to hear your story, Petal, although I think being married 4 times shows a ton of resilience and ultimately the belief in LOVE, which I admire <3. I beli... 1 hour ago
Whisper2015 posted a comment on 21 things about Alcohol Drinking Me vs 21 things about Alcohol Free Me
Cheers x I even dressed yet and have eaten 3 giant chocolte buttons for breakfast PMT weekend x 1 hour ago
WCA posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Fantastic Nana Treen!!! Xx 1 hour ago
Sammy_12 has posted the blog Saturday and half term
Hey guys Withdrawing from this anti d been really weird tired slept most of yesterday evening feel a lot more clearer! Sunday will be last night and then see I... 1 hour ago
Thistime posted a comment on 100 Days today!
An amazing achievement. Hugh congratulations. 1 hour ago
Optimus has posted the blog Day 13 and being called boring
It is not in my nature to be smug. I am a positive person but this does not tend to tip into 'I'm better than you' personality. Last night I was told I was bori... 1 hour ago
madcatlady posted a comment on 21 things about Alcohol Drinking Me vs 21 things about Alcohol Free Me
I think we may be separated twins, apart from the shoes, I have many shoes! 1 hour ago
Flow has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning all. Congratulations to our lovely Rose, on reaching your 100 AF day target. Massive well done, too, to our Elaine, CMG and Daisy. Wondrous warriors, th... 1 hour ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on WIFM
Perhaps look at this from a different perspective bloomwoz.  Can you change your feelings of frustration to one of curiosity and excitement at what you might di... 1 hour ago
cazdav1968 has posted the blog What happened to me last night?
Hello lovely Sobers and Istas! I have woken up feeling very wobbly about last night and so I am reaching out to all you lovely people. So, the day was going m... 2 hours ago
Scottish lass posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Love this, Nana! 🤗x 2 hours ago
madcatlady has posted the blog Feeling ok
I'm nervous to see people again after a long time at the party today. I'm OK with that,I'm sure other people are nervous too.Birthday in evening we're just show... 2 hours ago
madcatlady posted a comment on STOP SHOULDING ME
Love this,I'm an expert at shoulding myself.Today I'm unshoulding myself out of putting on my super happy face.Next week I'm unshouilding myself from being a pe... 2 hours ago
totalteaexpat posted a comment on The slippery slope
I did exactly the same thing as you and I did make it to a year :-( I still don't really know what happened- I guess it was such a transformation between the de... 2 hours ago
Rose_83 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations Rose 72 for reaching 100 days 😘💪💐🌹🌻 and for the triplets and each and everyone who has another lovely sober day under their belt.Hands up who lo... 2 hours ago
Patti posted a comment on 100 Days today!
You're doing very well Rose! Congrats on 100 days! ,💜 Patti 2 hours ago
Nana Treen has posted the blog STOP SHOULDING ME
STOP SHOULDING ME You shoulded meBut don’t you see in shoulding me you should you tooIt makes you small this should, shouldn’t gameDiminishing, belittling, loat... 2 hours ago
therese has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
MY oh My Lacerta - much as I enjoy the idea of sailing it would be a definitely a no-no for me at present - I'm even a tad nervous about walking R near trees to... 2 hours ago
bettertimes posted a comment on The slippery slope
Hi martin,pour the bloody poison down the sink and get on with your life, you know you don't need it to be truly happy xxx lots of love lovely to hear from you... 2 hours ago
bettertimes posted a comment on 100 Days today!
Bless your wee cotton socks rose, i love blogs like this, you have achieved so much, taking your life back, you must be incredibly proud of this achievement and... 3 hours ago
Elaine_88 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Rose - big well done on the century! 🍡🍦🍰🎂🍭 xx 3 hours ago
miriam_3 posted a comment on WIFM
Hi BPB - I didn't see what you had written here as I was writing mine at the time - glad someone else like jigsaws. I thought I was a bit of a nerd! Have never... 3 hours ago
bettertimes posted a comment on Setting myself some goals
i set myself small goals in the beginning very basic, one was keeping a gratitude journal and write 3 things down i was grateful for in that day.i broke the day... 3 hours ago
Miz has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations Rose!! and well done to all the milestoners. Great going! 🎉⚡💥🎈I’m in bed. Saturday night here and it’s a holiday weekend. So that’s a nice feeli... 3 hours ago
Sarnia has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I Sarnia do hereby give my word, that I do now make aSolemn binding pledge, that I will reject alcohol inAll its guises. I join this crusade and my initialtarge... 3 hours ago
miriam_3 posted a comment on WIFM
Well I can't give advice as I am where you are in many ways. My kids are now grown up. When they were young like yours I gave them my all even into their teenag... 3 hours ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on 100 Days today!
Thanks Rose, a lovely blog, congratulations and well done on 100 days. Love, Treen xxx 3 hours ago
Cathy_1 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Oh, Lacerta! That sounds scary-stuff to this landlubber! Take care. Hope that the engine/dinghy are repairable?Jane, I am sad that your man, who sounded so perf... 3 hours ago
Blackpoolbelle posted a comment on WIFM
Hi there, I’m very early days (day 21) but I’m finding that I’m reading more - books rather than just flicking through a magazine. Odd as it sounds, online jigs... 3 hours ago
Blondehippie posted a comment on Day 19 and lots of new knowlwdge
And I promise! tomorrow I'll reread my blog before I submit it :-/ sorry for the typing mistakes :-( 3 hours ago
Farleighgirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good Morning EveryoneFeeling a lot better after a decent night's sleep and looking forward to a day out today. Thanks for the advice Optimiss, you are right, I... 3 hours ago
Luto posted a comment on The slippery slope
I too drank again after being 4 years AF and like you, it wasn't a major craving or profound yearning that took me back to the bottle, but a simple, quiet thoug... 3 hours ago
Blades has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Happy Saturday everybody. Sunny and showery and windy here. Massive congratulations to all the milestoners . Xxxbx 3 hours ago
Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Super Congrats Rose 72 on 100 Days..You're a Rock Star so Keep Rockin It..Cade 5 minutes ago
Katie-Esther posted a comment on What happened to me last night?
P.S. And KUDOS for making it through!! 7 minutes ago
Katie-Esther posted a comment on What happened to me last night?
I say go to your nearest Catholic church and get a supply of holy water. Flick it at her if she comes back and tell her to go away already. Ask your guardian an... 7 minutes ago
Marirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Checking in day 87/100.Congrats. to all on Steveo’s list! xxx marirl 12 minutes ago
Elle_1972 has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
I think it should be fine, SL, but I don't want to go back to day 1 on a technicality either! I don't think it'll lead to any cravings, in fact, I am absolutely... 14 minutes ago
Scottish lass has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
That wouldn’t bother me, Elle, I would eat it. I love tiramisu, eat it often, it doesn’t make me crave alcohol or make me tipsy. Depends on your own mindset. Sa... 16 minutes ago
Katie38 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 17 minutes ago
Molly_3 posted a comment on What happened to me last night?
Brilliant response from BlueAngel. Dont worry about what others are doing, you can only control yourself. You’re doing great and the first several weeks are the... 19 minutes ago
Elle_1972 has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Damn, I need guidance. I'm on the train home, and before embarking, I thought I'd buy myself a treat. So I bought some nice chocolate. I was about to open them... 20 minutes ago
RunningRachel40 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 23 minutes ago



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Dawning Realisations By Emma Young


We’ve all heard stories about how extreme experiences in nature - surviving for days in freezing conditions, lost and alone, or even hacking off a limb to escape being trapped - can transform people’s attitudes to themselves, their relationships, and...

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Reframing Who You Are By Lucy Rocca


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5 Musings To Keep You Motivated This Stoptober By Joanne Bradford


Some of you may be acutely aware that this weekend marks the first non-drinking weekend of Stoptober! So I've pulled together some non-drinking musings to help keep you focused and motivated as you move into week two...  &nbs...

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After two decades of drinking more than I ever set out to, I kicked the booze once and for all in April 2011. In 2012 I set up soberistas.com and now work full time as editor of the site and am a passionate advocate of alcohol-free living. If you would like to get in touch please email me on lucy@soberistas.com - I’d love to hear from you!

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