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Blades posted a comment on Doubts
Keep pushing through Sea. Keep checking in. Stay accountable. Say hello to Helga, acknowledge her and then kick her down the other end of the park. Bx 3 minutes ago
karenanne53 posted a comment on Zombie Ants
A fabulous blog, thank you! 6 minutes ago
Tracie_2016 posted a comment on Protecting My Children
Stefanie, we all probably have 2 things in common: 1) we regret doing this sooner; 2) we are being our best now and every day AF helps that. Every drinking mum... 7 minutes ago
Freedom_11 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning WarriorsSorry for your loss Sciencegirl. Stay sAFe xWell done on 5 mths Tracie, I love reading your blogs xSuch tragic news about Manchester. As others... 11 minutes ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on Protecting My Children
I can hear you roar, Tracie! The first time my eldest granddaughter walked away from us on her own was in a restaurant, we didn't have enough napkins and she o... 12 minutes ago
MarthaB has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 14 minutes ago
liz313 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 14 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on Goodbye
Meg, I urge you to stay. Keep reading. Something, sometime somebody's blog, comment, article or book may just strike the chord that speaks to you. Really, yo... 21 minutes ago
Fearnomore has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
LadyLuck, it sounds like you are increasingly suffering from the direct results of drinking. You acknowledge that which is a huge step. Gradually you need to ac... 26 minutes ago
Nana Treen has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning world it's a brand new day (oops, I think I might have borrowed that from somewhere). I am ahead of you all today because this has to be a day of... 28 minutes ago
Cazzer367 posted a comment on 4 Months 23 Days
Am waiting to hear if got help Amwest, xxx 28 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on More united
A beautiful blog my beautiful friend. As always your respect for this 'one precious life' shines through. You have always been my guiding light here. Thinkin... 31 minutes ago
Loobylou_3 has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Morning everyone. Dreadful news continues from Manchester. It's so heartbreakingly sad. So evil. The message coming out is that we have to remember to stay st... 32 minutes ago
LizzieO posted a comment on Crippling Tiredness
Thank you all, for the reassuring comments. I'm eating well, excercising and trying to just give in to it when I can. Your comments about the body recovering... 32 minutes ago
DustyRose posted a comment on Josie
This meeting obviously meant something to to you for you to take the time and share this moment with us. But isn't it a true eye opener to think like you said i... 33 minutes ago
CGH posted a comment on Luck of the Irish
Congrats on three weeks! I'm right behind you and love hearing that you're hanging in there and feeling great. 1 hour ago
MyrtleTurtle posted a comment on Why can't i do this?
I hindsight Annabella, what I was trying to do was to find a way to try and keep alcohol in my life. Once I accepted that we had to go our separate ways and tha... 2 hours ago
nickybumble1 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
SueS_3 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Ladyluck, I agree with Therese that you not set yourself up for a fall by anticipating it. Rather, think of something delightful to reward yourself with when y... 2 hours ago
Claire_121 has commented in the forum discussions Is there a Team US???
I am in Southern California. Any chance you are in this part of the US? 2 hours ago
Cade posted a comment on Crippling Tiredness
I was tired for about 50 days..Give yourself a chance. It will get better. Stay Free, Stephen Cade 3 hours ago
Michelle_132 has commented in the forum discussions Sober Sistas!
Good evening. I am so tired. I think this cold is knocking my on my bum. Stacey - I just read Dam Yankee's blog. It reminded me of something I have heard. Once... 3 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Crippling Tiredness
Yes to all below. Light exercise really helped me get back into balance physically, too. Brought my energy levels up xxx Diane 3 hours ago
Cade posted a comment on I am back - part 2
Welcome back SharB.. Glad you're here. Be Free, Stephen Cade 3 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on 4 Months 23 Days
Busy day, I'll say. You can sleep the sleep of the righteous, as my dad used to say xxx Diane 3 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Why can't i do this?
My heart aches when I read posts like this. I so remember the horrid feelings of beginning my evenings saying, Okay! I've got this! Not too much tonight! and th... 3 hours ago
Lacerta has commented in the forum discussions Elderly Parents caregivers?
I find myself in the wide awake club, it's 3am and should be asleep. My Mum is continually loosing things, this week it is her main set of keys. Goodness knows... 3 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Doubts
The louder Helga gets, the more pissed off she is, because you're winning xxx Diane 3 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on More united
What a lovely tribute, MW. And I'm glad about your and Marinu's 600 days xxx Diane 4 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Where I was today....
I can almost smell the English air. Lovely, Jane. But hey! What's that crack about New York City?! There is Central Park, you know! And some people have very lo... 4 hours ago
Chanti posted a comment on 4 Months 23 Days
Good night Cazzer x 4 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Day 109 but stressed to the hills
Sally, I'm so sorry, this sounds miserable. Your stress level might drop a bit if you think of the job as "what you're doing until you get one of the new ones"... 4 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Happy Birthday AF100
I hear wonderful things about this thread and about the folks on it. Happy birthday to you all xxx Diane 4 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Making it count
Love and hugs from New York xxx Diane 4 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Luck of the Irish
It's "using drink as a destination" that really strikes me. Reminds me of Gertrude Stein's famous line. When asked how she liked a particular village, she said,... 4 hours ago
Cade posted a comment on Josie
Nice Sammy, thanks for sharing.. 4 hours ago
Cade posted a comment on Goodbye
Meg, You can do this. Don't quit on you. If I pay to renew your membership, will you stay and keep trying? Ive read some of your blogs and responses. You're a b... 4 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Looking at the stars
Hi Dlrene and welcome! 27 days is fantastic, you're almost to 30 and that was a big one for me (who knows why--just liked the number, I guess). I love the Oscar... 4 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Now I can hear what my body is trying to tell me
Wow, LuckyGal, this is life-changing. Lots of folks blog about drinking masking emotional issues but yes, of course, physical ones too! I'm so glad you got thes... 4 hours ago
DamYankee has commented in the forum discussions Elderly Parents caregivers?
Hi all: Stormy, I'm glad your brothers appeared, even if they're mute--sometimes just a "presence" can help. At least they're paying some attention! DD I'm glad... 4 hours ago
Jemima109 posted a comment on Crippling Tiredness
I'm not sure but this was me last week - I'm just shy of 6mos AF. I literally could not keep my eyes open and getting out of bed was nearly impossible. I thin... 5 hours ago
Stefanie_4 posted a comment on Protecting My Children
Very sweet, touching blog, Tracie. I am utterly heartbroken because my oldest son (almost 22) has struggled with anxiety, depression, and other issues for many... 6 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Goodbye
You've said Tuesday is your problem day, Meg. Today is Tuesday. My guess is that you did not follow through with your plan to meet the special stresses of this... 6 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Palm Springs
I am sorry for your and your family's loss. But like you, I'm glad your dad did not linger. Thinking of you xxx Diane 6 hours ago
GeoffTheBass posted a comment on Looking at the stars
Well done, welcome and great blog. Re-read this if you feel yourself wavering. You're seeing the benefits already. Yes the problems don't go away, something it... 6 hours ago
3rd Crow Wing posted a comment on More united
I'm deeply sorry for the tragedy that struck your home yesterday MW. My heart goes out to everyone who is suffering the effects of this event. I think your word... 6 hours ago
Wonderful Life posted a comment on Josie
Loved this! Thanks for sharing Sammy. 6 hours ago
Carrie_47 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Sorry to hear about your Dad Science girl,so very sad following the events in Manchester,words are not enough.Huge congratulations Tracie you're a soberstar!Goo... 7 hours ago
CGH has posted the blog Feeling Frustrated
So I think I'm hitting a bit of a crisis point here. I have pretty much sailed through the last 17 days. It's been lovely not drinking, waking up clear-headed,... 7 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Name Tag Info Please
Yay Marinu! 7 hours ago
Fiona_60 posted a comment on Now I can hear what my body is trying to tell me
Hi LG, yep! I'm Hashimoto's Hypothyroid too and did not discover this until 6 months into my sobriety. Coeliac too, which I've known and managed since 2002. App... 7 hours ago
Petal posted a comment on Back to Reality
I'm so pleased to hear this Behonest my sober twin. I agree we can encounter difficulties at any stage in our journey but I find that if I log onto here for som... 7 hours ago
Fiona_60 posted a comment on More united
Sending love to you especially dear MW, thinking of you big-time. FionaXOX 7 hours ago
Fiona_60 posted a comment on Crippling Tiredness
Lizzie, it's probably just your body and soul recovering from alcohol. To be sure though, why not go get yourself a full health check? Health takes a back-seat... 7 hours ago
Petal posted a comment on Where I was today....
You must have been on the same walk as me today. Lovely xxx 7 hours ago
Petal posted a comment on Goodbye
Please don't give up Meg. As others have said you can just read the blogs and hopefully get strength from this to carry on. It is hard but it is possible. You s... 7 hours ago
Jodijo posted a comment on Goodbye
Lovely Meg,This is the alcohol talking, It wants you on your own. You know it won't improve any situation, it has left you feeling crap and that's why you were... 7 hours ago
Petal posted a comment on More united
You are such an inspiration MW. I'm full of admiration for your dignity and strength. Sending you heartfelt love & respect and also to the people of Manche... 7 hours ago
Tracie_2016 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Steveo that is such a lovely thing to say. Thank you so much. That has made me cry again tonight. What I love about this thread is its like a sea saw, there are... 7 hours ago
Jay123 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 7 hours ago
Blades posted a comment on Doubts
Keep pushing through Sea. Keep checking in. Stay accountable. Say hello to Helga, acknowledge her and then kick her down the other end of the park. Bx 3 minutes ago
karenanne53 posted a comment on Zombie Ants
A fabulous blog, thank you! 6 minutes ago
Tracie_2016 posted a comment on Protecting My Children
Stefanie, we all probably have 2 things in common: 1) we regret doing this sooner; 2) we are being our best now and every day AF helps that. Every drinking mum... 7 minutes ago
Freedom_11 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning WarriorsSorry for your loss Sciencegirl. Stay sAFe xWell done on 5 mths Tracie, I love reading your blogs xSuch tragic news about Manchester. As others... 11 minutes ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on Protecting My Children
I can hear you roar, Tracie! The first time my eldest granddaughter walked away from us on her own was in a restaurant, we didn't have enough napkins and she o... 12 minutes ago
MarthaB has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 14 minutes ago
liz313 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 14 minutes ago
Maggie_68 posted a comment on Goodbye
Meg, I urge you to stay. Keep reading. Something, sometime somebody's blog, comment, article or book may just strike the chord that speaks to you. Really, yo... 21 minutes ago
Fearnomore has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
LadyLuck, it sounds like you are increasingly suffering from the direct results of drinking. You acknowledge that which is a huge step. Gradually you need to ac... 26 minutes ago
Nana Treen has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning world it's a brand new day (oops, I think I might have borrowed that from somewhere). I am ahead of you all today because this has to be a day of... 28 minutes ago



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