Giving Up Alcohol and Living Life in Control
Below is an extract from the new novel, Sober Stick Figure, by Amber Tozer, a powerful and darkly funny memoir of a young alcoholic. Surrounded by alcohol and alcoholic strangers and alcoholic relatives her entire childhood, Amber never stood a chance. But for a long time she was an overachiever and a functional alcoholic. None of her relatives suspected a thing because in her family, the men were the alcoholics, not the women. After her dad died of the disease....Read more. Posted 18th June.
My disconnection from myself didn’t happen overnight. It was a creeping, pernicious process so subtle that I didn’t even notice it going on. But one day I woke up and felt like I’d forgotten who I was. The version of me that I carried in my head simply didn’t exist any more and I’d turned inwards, hiding my fear and pain from the people that I loved. Where was the bright, enthusiastic, positive, loud Jojo of my younger days? At some point I’d started....Read more. Posted 4th June.
This is a song for all those who are struggling.
Who are saying, ‘Is this worth it?’
‘Where am I?’
‘Who am I?’
Obviously, and rightly, literature on quitting drinking concentrates on the positives. I mean, I’m not trying to sell a book here. But I think for those of us who struggle with the murkier corners of existence – maybe because of alcohol, maybe despite it, maybe both - this can feel partial. Or disingenuous.....Read more. Posted 21st May.
As a child, Elaine Aron thought there was something wrong with her. At school, she got called “cry-baby” and “spoilsport” and was often told, “You’re just too sensitive for your own good”. At college, she would find herself crying in restrooms, overwhelmed by the social and even the practical pressures of student life. Today, Aron is sitting at a table at a cafe in Tiburon, a quiet town across the bay from San Francisco.... Read more. Posted 18th June.
This year, I celebrate being alcohol-free for six years. With each year that goes by, I have to admit, it gets way easier. I am at a point now where I honestly don’t think about it much at all. I can go to bars and be comfortable. I can be around friends drinking and not feel like I’m missing out. I usually don’t think twice at this point. I’m happy, healthy, and love being alcohol-free.
I recently celebrated my high school reunion....Read more. Posted 18th June.
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